When People Can’t Hear You: Vibrational Differences

Have you ever tried to explain something to someone, but they just couldn’t hear you? Perhaps a friend couldn’t hear your side of the story, or your parents couldn’t understand your motivation for wanting to do something.  Perhaps you argued with your significant other over what was said or what happened.

This is a common phenomenon, and I know it can be frustrating!

The thing to understand is that sometimes people WON’T hear you.  And it’s not because they are jerks or because they are ignorant or because they lack vision-it’s because you are both on different vibrational frequencies.

In every moment of every day, we are tuned into a specific vibrational energy. Sometimes it’s high, sometimes it’s low, and some days it fluctuates a great deal.  However, it is our vibrational energy that determines who hears us, AND who we can hear.

When we are high and happy, messages of hate and complaint simply don’t resonate with us.  For example, if I am feeling good and someone comes to tell me how bad their life is, all I really hear is “blah, blah, blah, I’m complaining.”

However, if I’m in a foul mood suddenly I fully understand the rage and the anger! It’s also a lot more tempting to get involved in the complaining when I am resonating at a low level.

Conversely, if you are feeling inspired and happy and want to share your positive thoughts with the world, some people just aren’t going to hear it.  Instead of feeling inspired and uplifted, all they will hear is “blah, blah, blah my head is in the clouds and everything I’m saying is ridiculous.” 

Even further, it’s possible that they become so removed from you vibrationally that the phone drops the call, or your conversation gets interrupted. When you are too vibrationally removed from the person you are communicating with, you can guarantee he or she will have a difficult time honestly hearing anything you have to say.

This has been valuable information to me when it comes to dealing with people. 

When you feel like you have to keep explaining yourself over, and over again, it’s helpful to remember that the other person isn’t going to be able to hear you from where they stand.  Clearly, they are in a different energetic state.

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Knowing this has saved me from countless arguments and debates.  If I can tell my point just isn’t being heard, I chalk it up to vibrational differences. I don’t even waste my time trying anymore. I know my voice won’t be heard, and continuing to repeat myself will only cause me to get frustrated and lower my own vibrational frequency.

In other words, when you are flying high, remember not to “stoop to their level!”

This, by the way, is why so many people get frustrated around “toxic people.” In order to truly communicate with people who are on a much lower level, you yourself have to let your vibration take a nose dive!

Arguing with an angry person is a one-way ticket to rage town, and commiserating with someone who is sad will send you all the way down to depression junction. Trust me, I’ve been to both, and neither one is worth the trip.

Just remember, your perceptions and thoughts are 100% valid, and they don’t require anyone else’s confirmation or acceptance.  Your perception will always be an accurate representation of your vibrational energy, regardless of how anyone else is perceiving it from their level. To keep your vibration high, you just can’t worry about those who can’t see the world from up on your perch.

Stay elevated, and let it go. Change the conversation, and if you can’t, excuse yourself and try again later when you’re both resonating at a decent level.  Remember, it’s not that they are incapable of hearing you ever, it’s just that they can’t hear you right this minute. Vibrational frequencies change frequently, after all.

Keep your rose-colored glasses on, and don’t be afraid to abandon situations that require you to take them off!

XO, Andrea

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  • ColleenF
    Posted May 23, 2016 9:53 pm 0Likes

    Hi Andrea, it’s me again, can I just say we must vibrate at the same frequency because I hear you loud and clear! Lol! But this sure explains why I don’t want to be around certain people too much and why sometimes I feel like people tune me out when I talk. I’ll just remind myself of this instead of feeling bad or taking it personally. Thanks.

  • R
    Posted May 24, 2016 7:30 am 0Likes

    Hi Andrea,

    I just loved this article, you just answered all my thoughts that I wanted to get an insight on. We encounter varieties of people who are like these hurdles on the running track that we got to hop on which don’t get well with this ( the moment I’ve been on the journey of being happy and cheerful I’ve seen a loads of these kinds) and I often used to just ignore them and try to tell myself let me paint the world with my wonderful colours. I now understand why some don’t get to hear what we want them to hear. It’s motivating me to be more patient towards them and drop the conversation to be picked up later when we match the vibration!!

    I shall have my rose-coloured glasses on ( I soo love them!!)

    Thank you!!

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted May 25, 2016 8:49 am 0Likes

    Thanks for your comment Colleen…and it’s good to know you are “hearing” me! It’s always so nice to meet people you align with XO

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted May 25, 2016 8:52 am 0Likes

    Hi R! Thanks for your positive comment. I’m so glad it resonated well with you 🙂 XO, Andrea

  • Larry
    Posted May 30, 2016 10:16 pm 0Likes

    Thank you.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted May 31, 2016 1:03 pm 0Likes

    Thanks Larry- much appreciated! XO, Andrea

  • Sammyluvs100
    Posted August 6, 2016 12:34 am 0Likes

    I have to say, this makes totally and complete sense to me. i feel like I think these exact thoughts that you have put into words and made into this article blog. Its truly amazing to know that the things I think and feel, considering I mostly feel much alone in this world, and I’ve always felt I’m always being misunderstood, rather than not heard at all. But I know for one, I’ve been there. Someone is going on and on about a situation that I could totally care less about and has no meaning to me. Funny thing is how familiar I feel I am already with “LOA” and yet, I’ve had a few different friends randomly tell me about it and that I need to get LOA in my life. I thought it must of been a sign considering more than one friend had mentioned it to me. I have been living my life in such a negative way for such a long time now, I defiantly understand now why I needed this in my life. This is inspiring and very uplifting. It makes me feel whole again in a way, crazy it may sound but like I said its like I’ve known this all along. I just needed to randomly stumble upon your amazing site! Thank you Andrea for you hard work and the blessings you are giving to numerous people every day. Truly, you are a great writer, I not only enjoy learning from you, I enjoy you all together. Such a beautiful soul you have. Thank you for changing my perceptive tonight. I do appreciate what you do, and honestly wish someday I am somehow, someway, helping people every day in a way that changes their lives, just like you. 🙂

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted August 6, 2016 11:12 am 0Likes

    Aww, thanks Sammy! This comment makes me very happy. I think it’s lovely that you are being called to the LOA, it speaks volumes about where you are, where you want to go, and what you believe is possible for you. Your friends coming to you to encourage you to the LOA is really just you encouraging yourself at the end of the day. Our realities reflect our focus and our belief structures after all! I wish you the very best on your journey “into the positive!” May the light guide you everywhere you wish to be. XO, Andrea

  • Renee
    Posted November 21, 2022 9:21 pm 0Likes

    Hi Andrea! Great article! Do you have any advise for my teenage daughter (she’s an empath). She is really discouraged because she feels that everyone, all the time, talks over her (😞me included…but I’m aware of it and try my best not to do it). She has started to shut down because of this and it’s really affecting her confidence. I get what you are saying, and I (to the best of my ability) understand the whole “different vibrations” concept. I just don’t know how to explain it in a way it will resonate with. You would think because we share the same gift, I’d be able to help her, but I feel stuck. I struggled with what she’s is my whole life. With my family, in school and every job. It felt like I was invisible and nobody took me seriously. Never being heard was painful! I’ve worked through it…and it took a long time to understand. But I don’t want that for her. So, any advice would be greatly appreciated! 😊

  • Krissy
    Posted June 25, 2023 12:43 pm 0Likes

    Hi, I have often experienced this. I think it can cause some of us to have throat Chakra issues because we feel like maybe we should just stop trying to talk. My feeling have gotten hurt and I sometimes feel invisible. Definitely I have let my vibration lower as a reaction to not being heard.

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