There Are No Winners or Losers. We All Rise and Fall Together

Competition is a funny thing. Many people to want to “win” in order to prove their prowess to the rest of the group, but in the game of life, we all rise and fall together. 

Ultimately, there are no winners and losers. We all win and lose collectively.

Think about it!

For instance:

Have you ever been a part of a group that has had an inspiring success?

Perhaps your little league team won the championship, or perhaps your team at work made a big breakthrough. Maybe you were a part of a class growing up that was super fun and exciting or maybe you have a strong group of friends you really love, trust and feel comfortable with.

What makes experiences like this special? 

Experiences like these are successful and special because in experiences like these everyone in the group wins together.

Now, think about a time when you won by yourself with the sole intention of beating someone else. Was that moment as sweet as the group “win?”

Probably not.

Why? Because in order for you to win, you had to segregate yourself from the other person. You had to be the winner, with your intention to make the other person the loser. Your entire goal was based on making someone else suffer. Does that truly uplift you?

We are connected

Real winning only occurs when we are a part of something bigger than ourselves.

This is the inherent problem with competition for many people. They only view themselves as successful if they are winning, and others are losing. They miss out on the magic of the collective win, by separating themselves from everyone else.

After all, how high do you really think you can fly by yourself?

Humanity is a collective group. We are all, whether we want to admit it or not, intricately connected. Watch us as we move through the streets, or as we walk through a shopping center.  We move together, drawn by a collective force that binds us. 

In this way, we are much like ants or a school of fish. We make “think” we are individuals, separate from each other, but just like any group of animal, we are interconnected, and our energy affects one another deeply.

Win with, rather than against

So use this information to your advantage. We all benefit from the advancement of others in the group. We all benefit from the happiness of others. We all win when one of us wins. We all lose when one of us loses. We all affect the energy of the group we are a part of, be it positively or negatively.

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For instance, there may be people who are smarter out there than you or I, but we both benefit from their intelligence. For example, I haven’t any earthly clue how to make or program a computer, but I reap tremendous benefit from the fact that some people know how to.

There may be people out there who are faster and stronger than you or I. However, aren’t we both glad to know that there are strong people out there who are able to fight fires, build homes and buildings and entertain us or motivate us through their athletic skills?

We all rise and fall together. One man or woman’s win is not your loss. An true win is never someone else’s loss. A true win benefits us all. 

Reach for your highest potential, but do it knowing that it benefits all of humanity, not just yourself. We don’t have to prove our worth by making losers out of each other, and when we choose to do this, we miss out on precious opportunities to really win.

You’ll never really win in life when your goal is making other people lose. We all rise and fall together. Remember that.

XO, Andrea

(Law of Attraction coach & educator)

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  • Bobby clarke
    Posted September 27, 2016 10:27 pm 0Likes

    This article is amazing!!!!!! I super trippily pictured us as tiny as ants going about like in an outdoor shopping center … we look down upon ants as a family of ants but we are a family of humans. Woahhh! Super amazing! Thank you soooooooooooo much for this article. I actually am gonna bookmark it!!!! It can cure jealousy or feelings of envy for sure! XO

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted September 28, 2016 9:01 am 0Likes

    Glad you liked it Bobby, and that it resonates with you! We are all in this together:) XOXO

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