Be Nice! Offering Kindness Benefits YOU, Not Just Them

It’s hard to be nice to everyone, isn’t it?

Someone fails to say “thank you” when you hold open the door. Another jumps out into the street while you’re driving and gives you a near heart attack. The cashier at the coffee shop is short and dismissive towards you.

Do people like this deserve your kindness? Maybe not, but YOU deserve to give it to them. Here’s why:

When we choose to be kind to people, we increase the likelihood that people will be nice to us. Thanks to the Law of Attraction, what we give, we get back. So in this way, there is MASSIVE value in kindness, not just for the other person-but, more importantly, for you!

I see it in my life almost every day. When someone does something I do not like, and I have a strong negative reaction, I’ll remind myself of this phenomenon. Then, I find a way to be nice anyways.

I smile a little brighter, I speak a bit more cheerfully, or I offer a kind word or even just a kind thought.

As a result? More often than not, the person who is irritating me does an about-face and acts more in accordance with what I prefer.

The person breezing past without saying “thank you” suddenly realizes her mistake, and says “oops! thanks!” just as the door shuts.

The guy in the road suddenly looks up, and gives me an appreciative wave of thanks. The cashier suddenly looks from her register and smiles at me out of nowhere.

See, this is totally different than how I used to deal with rude people. My old method was to get angry, judge and seethe silently at the person who was clearly going out of his or her way to ruin my day.

This was a much less effective course of action. I honestly don’t think I can ever recall a time when a cashier would look up and smile at me in response to my inner turmoil. Instead, she’d often take the insult one step further, perhaps ruining my coffee or overcharging me. 

Related Article: What Other People’s Moods REALLY Mean

Again, with the LOA, you get more of whatever you’re putting out there. When choose to respond with irritation, you can bet your bottom dollar more things that irritate you are well on their way.

So, the next time someone does something you dislike and you feel a negative reaction coming on, STOP! Remind yourself that however you react will determine what happens next.

If for no one but yourself, be nice! Kindness is great for the other person, but selfishly, it’s equally great for you.

XO, Andrea

(Law of Attraction Educator)

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  • Anonymous
    Posted November 10, 2016 9:05 am 0Likes

    The article appears to be very simple and easy to follow..but its more insightful. So when i try to be kind to everyone irrespective of their behaviour do you think we would be misjudged of being naive..i mean sometimes people just get on your nerves and try to act smart and be sarcastic..what do you in those kind of situations? May be the boss goes overboard by imitating in an uncouth manner in an meeting with you, how do we have to put up with it? I do understand what we give is what we get..but what for those who are doing what they are doing..please do throw some light on these (it would be more easy to deal in day to day life..)

    Thank you!!

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted November 10, 2016 12:36 pm 0Likes

    Hi Anonymous!

    The grand irony in human interaction is that the reactions we get from people mirror our inner expectations. So, it is BOTH The boss choosing to be uncouth AND my expectation that he will be uncouth that are being attracted to one another.

    It will also help to try to be nice with the goal of making the other person feel good rather than with the goal of getting them to respond positively to us. If I reach for a genuine desire to uplift another person, I become matched to a version of that person who uplifts me as well. If I reach for the other person to uplift me because I feel I NEED to be uplifted, than that person will mirror me by leaving me feeling unfulfilled and in need of being uplifted.

    So, the long story short is to try to offer genuine kindness free from any expectations of how the other person should act or respond. Think of them as an extension of you, and give them as much love (and leeway!) as you would want for yourself.

    XO, Andrea

  • Anonymous
    Posted November 11, 2016 12:30 pm 0Likes
  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted November 11, 2016 1:45 pm 0Likes

    Thank you for the kind thought Anonymous <3

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