Beware! Your Happiness May Annoy Unhappy People

One thing that I have become very aware of since learning about the Law of Attraction is that your happiness can seriously annoy unhappy people, especially those who are chronically negative.

You may have noticed this sometimes in your life. Maybe you’ve had a friend who has downplayed or belittled a success you are very proud of. Perhaps a cranky family member has snarled “what are you so happy about?” just because you’re walking around with a smile on your face.

Why is this? How could your positive energy be interpreted so negatively?

My experiences with “happiness annoyance”

I see this sometimes on my blog or my social media. Sometimes I’ll write a positive piece or a post meant to inspire and uplift, but someone out in internet land gets really, really mad about it. 

I also know from personal experience that when I was not a happy person in my younger years, smiley, happy people really pissed me off. And I mean they really pissed me off.

I can recall a time back when I was an angry 19 or 20-year-old driving to work in an exceptionally bad mood.  I pulled up to an intersection, and next to me pulled up a perfect, happy, smiley family.  They all looked so happy and excited to be alive, and their happiness just infuriated me. It was about all I could do not to roll down the window and give them the finger.

Why? What did that family do to me? They were just minding their business, enjoying their day. You would think I would appreciate the vision of a family that seemed so blissful, but in that state of being nothing could have annoyed me more.

Why happy people annoy unhappy people

The reason why unhappy people get annoyed by happy people is simple. When we are unhappy, we are disconnected from our joy. Seeing someone else basking in the light of happiness and joy is a strong reminder to us of just how disconnected we are.

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It’s just simply “happiness envy,” nothing more. Being miserable is very uncomfortable, after all. It hurts to think that other people get to enjoy life when we believe we are condemned to suffering.

Instead of keeping this in perspective, though,  when we are happy, sometimes we allow an unhappy person to drag us down. Someone offers us a snarky comment or just give us “the look” and our happiness plummets.

Instead of their being just one unhappy person in the room, now there are two. Negative energy, after all, can be very contagious when we allow ourselves to identify with it.

Turn this negative into a positive

So, I’d like you to consider this. The next time you are flying high and you feel the hate rays shining on you, take it is a GOOD sign, not as a bad one.

If you know someone who is chronically negative, and he or she is visibly irritated by your happiness, you can know for certain that you are in a positive emotional state. You’ve done a good job! Keep it up! If they were enjoying your company more, you’d probably be down on their level right now, miserable together.

If people are hating on your for your success or achievements in life, good for you! When your light is shining brightly, those who feel disconnected will let you know just how high up you’ve travelled.

Turn these negative reactions into a positive. Sure, it feels good to be supported by positive and uplifting people, and yes, those people do exist! But if you still have a few “trolls” in your reality, it’s a good thing that they are mad at  you for your happiness.

Be happy anyway

People who are committed to negativity cannot stand positive people. That’s just how it works. If you’re going to be a positive person, make peace with this fact, and see it for what it really is: a sign that you are in vibrational alignment.

You can’t change negative people, and you can’t force them to see things your way. What you CAN do is be grateful for your vibrational alignment and any evidence of it you come across.

If you can see your “haters” behavior in a positive light it won’t have any power over you to bring you down. No matter how anyone reacts, you can feel good about feeling good.

So, if you’ve been dealing with people raining on your parade, cheer up! It’s only a sign you’re moving in the right direction. Make peace with the unhappy people in your life. They’re only mad because they want to feel good too.

XO, Andrea

Law of Attraction Educator

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  • NV
    Posted December 9, 2016 3:00 pm 0Likes

    So today, my receptionist was little rude to me and instead of giving her shit, i told myself that maybe she is having a bad day and hopefully she feels better so i left the scene without a fuss. Few minutes later, she came to me all happy, helped me with my question and she was a completely new person. Energy transfers…

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 10, 2016 10:52 am 0Likes

    LOVE when that happens NV! 🙂

  • Jeannie
    Posted June 14, 2023 5:47 am 0Likes

    What if your hater takes it out on you and your family members thru social media lashing out with terrible lies and exaggerations? How do I deal with this?

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