Overcome Insecurity With This One SIMPLE Trick

Yesterday I received a really good question on my blog about how to overcome insecurity. This is something many people struggle with. I’ll admit it, it is something I myself have spent some serious time addressing in my life!

So, here’s the deal. How do you keep a positive self-image when you find yourself in a situation that makes you feel “less than?”

After all, it’s easy to feel good about yourself when you are by yourself and everything is going splendidly well, but what do you do when someone you perceive as “better” than you walks into the room? How do you keep that high level of confidence in spite of the fact that inevitably you will cross paths with people who are smarter, funnier, wealthier, more attractive, healthier and/or more popular than you?

The trick is actually REALLY easy. All you have to do is look for common ground.

Unity v. Separation

See, when we feel insecure we are in a state of saying “I am DIFFERENT than this person/these people” and “I am separate from this person/these people.” Thoughts like these disconnect us from the people around us. They cause us to cower, hide and avoid eye contact.

However, when we feel comfortable and secure with other people we are in the state of saying “I am LIKE this person/these people” and “I am one with this person/these people.” This is the primary difference between secure and insecure mentality. It’s all about unity v. separation.

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So, knowing this, if you want to overcome insecurity and exude more confidence, look for what connects you, rather than what separates you!

When you walk into a room and feel overwhelmed, instead of dwelling on thoughts like “he is so much better dressed than me,” or “she’s got a better body than me” (differences), make a conscious effort to look for as many similarities as you can. For example “everyone here is about the same age as me” or “everyone here works in the same industry as me.”

You will find that as you make a deliberate effort to brainstorm commonalities with other people (even those you perceive as “better” than you) the more connected and comfortable you will feel with the crowd.

Identify yourself as a part of the community you are standing in, rather than as an entity separate from the group. This is an easy thing you can do to boost your confidence and overcome insecurity.

Trust me, it works!

XO, Andrea

(Law of Attraction coach & educator)

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  • NV
    Posted September 8, 2016 2:22 pm 0Likes

    this is perfect answer to my question / concern i posted yesterday on yesterday’s article.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted September 8, 2016 2:30 pm 0Likes

    You noticed! 🙂

  • Bobby
    Posted September 11, 2016 7:29 pm 0Likes

    OMGGG!!!! This is for sure a game changer for me!!!! I love love love this tip!

    I’m a pretty confident person; but like most we all have those moments of self-doubt. This is a tip I am for sureeee going to allow to follow in my life. Even for manifesting successes.

    “Well so&so was able to do that and we come from a similar background. ”

    That will also reaffirm to yourself that things are indeed possible and our belief in it will expand.

    As always thanks for sharing this! I am going to email you more on this topic because I am going to put it to some good use and I will for sure want to share the results! Xo

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted September 12, 2016 8:55 am 0Likes

    I like that idea for an affirmation for manifestation- good idea! I’m going to try that out:)

    Thanks Bobby! XO

  • Juan
    Posted September 30, 2016 11:28 pm 0Likes


    I love this article and all the information you are sharing!! I am an athlete and want to use your law of attraction tips in what I am passionate about. There is so much out there and it is difficult to sort through what is true and what is bogus in the world of mental training for athletics. How could I connect a concept like overcoming insecurity to sports? What other tips do you have for one of your students as an competitive athlete?

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted October 1, 2016 8:07 am 0Likes

    Hi Juan…mentality is always critical when it comes to sports. The big thing I would say is to “fake it till you make it” when it comes to acting confident and acting as if you are secure in your athletic abilities. Here is an article on acting as if that you may find useful, and another link to a more recent one here as well. Have an awesome day! 🙂

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