STOP STRUGGLING: It’s a Waste of Your Time and You Know It!

Are you ready to stop struggling? Or are you still putting up a fight in life?

We live in a world where many people embrace, and even idolize the struggle. To stop struggling, for many, would mean to adopt a radically different way of life.

Listen to the words of some of today’s most popular music. Watch reality television. Go to the movies and analyze the plot lines.

Our collective consciousness is often literally obsessed with struggle.

However, the focus on the struggle is precisely what causes so much struggle in the world today. Because humans often identify as creatures who have to fight to survive, that has become the reality for many, many people.

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Those who believe they have to fight to survive end up fighting over, and over, and over again. They fight against anyone who they perceive as being in their way, including themselves. They have no peace.

If you really think about it, you know that this is true.

For example:

Let’s say that for some reason your coworker doesn’t like you. You can just tell that she has it out for you. What do you do?

If you choose to get nasty with her, gossip about her and be passive aggressive towards her, how do you expect she will respond? Will she change her tune? Will she suddenly start being nice? Do you imagine your workplace will become a more positive and loving place? 

No. In fact, hell no. This option will guide you directly to the workplace apocalypse, and you know it. You’ll be fighting forever, or you will find that you both bond over your mutual bitchiness, and start to terrorize others together on a grander scale in the office.

In any event, there will not be peace. That you can be assured of.

This is because struggling against a “hostile” situation only enflames the hostile situation and makes it much worse than it started out. This is why frequently small, insignificant misunderstandings blow up and become arguments or even breakups. Through struggling against the situation, we only fuel the negativity of the situation. We only create more of what we do not want.

Letting go

So what do you do when you find yourself in a hostile situation then? Do you just surrender? Do you just let people get away with being jerks?


Why? Because it’s in your best interest to do so, that’s why! The only way you “win” in a hostile situation is when you are able to transcend it.

So let it go! Who cares if your coworker is mean, or if your team lost the playoffs? Who cares if your boss put extra work on your desk or if your kids are being little assholes today? Why take a small inconvenience and turn it into World War III? Why spend an hour, a day, a week or a lifetime fighting against something you could just as easily blow off and move on from?

Stop struggling against that which you don’t want. Struggling only puts all of your energy directly into a situation you do not want to enflame.

Accept what is

Accept what is, and do your best to be kind regardless. Just because someone is mean to you doesn’t mean they deserve your hostility. Just because someone cut you off in traffic doesn’t mean they are a bad person. Even if you’ve been wronged in the worst sort of way there just isn’t any justification for you to struggle, because in the end, your struggle only worsens your situation.

Stop struggling. Learn to go with what life throws at you. Take a deep breath, relax, and focus on the present moment. Stay in the moment and make the peace in each moment more important than any perceived threat from the past or the future. This is how you live life without fighting to survive.

All of the fights, misunderstandings and “issues” can be small potatoes in your life when you treat them as such-I promise!

XO, Andrea

(Law of Attraction coach & educator)

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  • Anonymous
    Posted September 21, 2016 8:15 am 0Likes

    Hi Andrea, hope you’re fine. A very insightful article…it has loads of depth in to it. I would bring this in to practise (i guess I’ve already started) and as you said we are dwelling in the past actions or worried about the future. It’s very important for us to have our own sanity. But do you think we need to give people a piece of our mind just to let them know that they need to refrain from taking everyone as granted.

    Thank you

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted September 21, 2016 10:13 am 0Likes

    Hi Anonymous:) You make a good point. I think I agree that there is a difference between struggling and speaking your truth. Hiding your authentic self is just another form of struggle, isn’t it? Thanks for sharing your thoughts XO

  • Rashmie B
    Posted September 22, 2016 3:09 am 0Likes

    Thank you for the response Andrea!!!

  • B
    Posted October 18, 2016 7:33 pm 0Likes

    Rather than re. “small stuff,” Andrea, what about crimes? Should we — society –also let perpetrators of crimes go scot-free?

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted October 19, 2016 8:54 am 0Likes

    Hi B:)

    Good question…with the Law of Attraction we each have the power to interpret any event (like a crime/war/etc) in whatever manner we wish, and we have the choice to assign meaning to those events (be it a “bad,” “good” or “neutral”). How we interpret other people depends on our definitions of their choices (i.e., someone who commits a crime could be seen in a positive light by some, and a negative by others).

    Feeling the need to punish another for his or her choices is a sign that we have assigned a negative meaning to their choice, but the same exact choice could be interpreted positively (if we wish to experience the positive side of the coin).

    For example, Hitler could be seen in a highly negative light for all of the suffering he brought onto the Jews, OR he could be seen in a positive light for setting an example to the world that we prefer tolerance over discrimination, and ultimately serving as a catalyst for many people to choose empathy over hatred. This is just one example, but I feel it is a good one as it is an extreme example.

    I hope this makes sense. For more information on this idea, here is a link to something I wrote awhile back if you are interested. Thanks for your question! XO

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