Make Peace With What Is  (& Make it Better!)

The Law of Attraction is all about paradoxes, and this is a big one: You’ve gotta make peace with what is before you can get something better.

Most of us learn about the LOA and we immediately want to put it to use to make our lives better. We identify all the things we DON’T have, and we go to work to try to make them happen. 

So, we focus on the boyfriend we don’t have yet, the promotion we haven’t gotten, or the weight we haven’t lost yet.  We focus on what is lacking in order to try to create what is wanted into our realities.

Unfortunately, this strategy doesn’t work! You’ve gotta make peace with what is first.

When life isn’t good enough as it is

If you focused on why your life isn’t good enough as it is, you only amplify the “my life isn’t good enough” vibe. Then, thanks to the Law of Attraction, your life will continue to feel “not good enough!” Your reality will always reflect back to you your dominant belief structure.

For example, you can’t focus on how much your hate your current home and hope you’ll be able to find one you’ll love. Sure, you may move and you may find a new home.  However, rest assured, you will be just as dissatisfied with your new home as you were with the old one. 

This is because with the LOA we are always creating whatever is a match to our dominant thought patterns.  If we believe where we live sucks, then where we live must continue to suck. It doesn’t matter where we go or how many times we move.

You’d be much more successful in making peace with your current home, and coming to love it as it is.  Once you make peace with your current home, you become a match to homes you love. The universe will knock its socks off to match whatever you’re putting out there.

So, if you want your life to be great, you have to start projecting the vibe that says “my life is great now!” This is done by making peace with what is, and loving it as it stands.

Why so many people project dissatisfaction over satisfaction

I know making peace with what is can seem a bit counterintuitive. 

Most people have been raised to believe they have to improve their lives, and that their lives aren’t good enough as they are. People are also often taught to evaluate the problems in their lives more closely than the blessings.

Unfortunately, this social programming keeps many of us stuck in a rut. This is why you know a guy who’s on his third failed marriage. This is why you have a friend who is always sick. This is why so many people go on a different diet every year.

When we focus on what’s lacking, we create more lack. On the surface things may change, but it’s just the same shit, different day.

Remind yourself of this principle of the LOA on a regular basis. When you find yourself criticizing where you are, remember you are perpetuating lack. Being happy where you stand will make you a match to people, events and situations that reinforce your happiness, not your lack.

How do you make peace with what is?

One thing you can do right now to make peace with where you are is to play the “perspective game.” The perspective game enables you to make peace with where you are in the present moment.

To play this game, step into someone else’s shoes and evaluate your life from an alternative perspective.  List out the things you have, and view them from the perspective of not having them. Imagine living a life where the things you have right now are still just dreams to you. The bigger the list, the better.

Here is a short list of things I have in my life.  To play the perspective game, I write out the list, and then take a moment imagining my life without these blessings: 

1. I have two healthy and adorable children.
2. I have a wonderful husband who loves me and treats me like a queen.
3. I have a great relationship with my brother. He is a kindred spirit to me.
4. I have close friends I get to spend lots of time with.
5. I have a bunch of friendly and positive clients and I run my own business.
6. I’m healthy and in good shape.
7. I’ve had an exceptional education, and I have lots of skills and knowledge that benefit me because of it.
8. I live near the beach.
9. I drive my own car.
10. I get to vacation several times every year.
11. I own my own home.
12. I have money in the bank and my expenses are always paid with ease.
13. I really like all of my neighbors.
14. I’ve got an awesome phone and computer and all kinds of cool technological gadgets.

To me, each of the items on this list seems very normal to me, because they are each a part of my current reality.  However, these things are HUGE dreams for some people out there. 

In fact, just looking at this list makes me feel like my life is pretty great.  I can’t even imagine living a life without my relationships, my health or my education. Yet, there are people out there who live without these blessings every day.

It’s very hard for me to justify dissatisfaction with my life when I look at things from this perspective.  I’m just too grateful for what I have when I look at it this way.

Why perspective matters

When I look at this list through the perspective of those who don’t have what I already have, it reminds me just how blessed I truly am. When I look at my life through this lens, it’s easy for me to make peace with where I am. 

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When I look through my life focused on what I haven’t created or achieved, it’s much, much easier to feel unfulfilled. I’m not at peace when I evaluate my life based on my unfulfilled dreams.  How at peace I am with my life has everything to do with which perspective I choose to take.

In playing this perspective game, you come to see all of the wonderful things you have already created in your life.  You are focused on what you HAVE rather than what you DON’T have.  This projects a vibe that shouts out “I am fortunate in so many ways!”

A message like this becomes reinforced in your reality, allowing more and more good things to come into your life. The universe must continue to bless you, if you believe you are blessed.

Work within the paradox!

So, if you are wanting to use the Law of Attraction to improve your quality of life, make sure you are working within the paradox.  You’ve gotta make peace with what is before something better will come along. 

Remember, your life is great right here and now, regardless of where you stand.  There are always dreams you have achieved, and there are always reasons to be grateful. When you acknowledge this truth and declare your life to be great, your life will reflect greatness back to you in spades.

How is your life already great? Why is where you stand a wonderful place to be? Feel free to comment below and declare the greatness of your life right now!

XO, Andrea

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