Why Some People Reject Your Positive Lifestyle

When you make the decision to live a positive lifestyle, it becomes evident that not everyone you meet is going to come along for the ride.

I’ve mentioned before in my blog that I used to be a very angry, very hostile individual.  I lived for gossip and complaining.  Today I’ve largely shed that skin, and I have reaped tremendous benefits from doing so.  However, I’ve found that many others have not.

What does it mean to have a positive lifestyle?

Being a positive person, in my book, means a few things:

  1. I try to see the bright side of every situation.
  2. I avoid complaining about my life.
  3. I avoid gossiping about people, and I try to see their finer qualities wherever I can.
  4. I do whatever I can to get myself into a positive frame of mind.
  5. I allow myself to have my negative moments in order to accept them and move past them. However, I don’t dwell in them.

How others respond to our positive choices

I am very “open” about my choice to be a positive person, and this does have consequences.  While most people are very appreciative of my choice to be positive, this is not always the case. I still get sideways comments and jabs here and there about my decision to be positive. 

I get poked fun at from time to time. There are people out there who view me as frivolous, flighty and out of touch. Fortunately for me, getting jabbed doesn’t really bother me anymore (another HUGE benefit of being positively-oriented).

I understand if someone criticizes my positive choices, it’s simply because they do not see the profound benefit in them.  It’s unfortunate that they don’t, but it is what it is.

However, it makes me wonder: why do some people reject a positive lifestyle?

In truth, we all want to be happy.  We all want to feel loved, and we all want to be in a good mood.  Logically, choosing to be pessimistic just doesn’t make sense if these are our life goals.

In other words, if you want to be happy, why would you choose to gossip, complain and wallow in negativity? Even more confusingly, why would you mock those who chose to be positive?

Why some people reject a positive lifestyle

Because I’ve been on the other side of this coin in the past, I think I understand why some people reject a positive lifestyle:

  1. They feel powerless, but there’s a lot more power in anger than sadness.  For this reason, many people actually enjoy anger, because it feels much better than depression.
  2. Because they are stuck in negativity, bad things are drawn to them consistently via the Law of Attraction.  For this reason, they feel justified in their anger, because it is reinforced with reasons to be angry on a daily basis.
  3. When you aren’t sold on the benefits of positive living, it’s easier to go along with what the crowd is doing. It’s easier to mimic the behaviors and the attitudes of the majority.

So in my journey, I’ve had to become comfortable with the idea that living a conscious, positive lifestyle isn’t the most popular choice, at least for now.

There’s still a lot of negativity, but things are changing!

The good news is that I’ve seen lots of evidence that the world is transitioning into becoming a more positive place. Lately, when I turn on the television, I consistently hear people talking about “good vibes” or “being positive.”  I see people wearing t-shirts with these slogans, and I hear songs on the radio about these concepts.

Themes like these weren’t exactly “big” in the decades of the past. 

It’s catching on, and that’s a really, really good thing. I’m happy to live in a time of transition like this, where we are evolving from collectively negative to collectively positive. I can see it happening right before my eyes.

(Of course, I am of the belief that we align ourselves with a particular reality. It stands to reason that as we make positive decisions, we naturally align with realities that are collectively more positive.)

Accepting those who don’t accept you…

So, to my friends who have made the choice to be more positively-oriented, take heart. Not everyone is going to come along for the ride. You will find that some of your family, friends, neighbors and coworkers aren’t going to understand you or what you stand for, but that’s ok.

Some people may poke fun at you or question your logic, but that’s only because they are hurting. I know from experience that when you are in pain, the idea of “being positive” sounds like nails on a chalkboard.  It violates everything that we feel and experience when we are stuck in negativity.

Keep doing what you’re doing, because you are creating positive change. Those who are ready for the message will be drawn to it, and as more and more people are drawn into this kind of thinking, these ideas will become more and more prominent in the world we experience.

Related Article: How to Attract Positive Relationships (& Drop the Negative Ones Too!)

Ultimately, choosing a positive lifestyle benefits you, regardless of what anyone else is doing. It’s great to know that more and more people are coming into this knowing, but it doesn’t mean that those who do not are wrong or invalid. 

We each get to choose how we live this life, and we each have the option on how we want to experience our reality. 

Be positive for the sake of your own life experience, and let others choose their path.  Those who really want to experience love and happiness in this lifetime will find their way when they are ready. 

XO, Andrea

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  • ColleenF
    Posted July 8, 2016 8:04 pm 0Likes

    I too am seeing more evidence of people transitioning into positivity. It’s exciting. I just have to let go of trying to get those around me to stop having a negative attitude. It just doesn’t work. I can only work on myself and amazingly see things improving around me. It makes me giggle sometimes when I feel really really happy and it causes me to do nice things for others and then someone does something unexpected and nice for me that shows me the ripple effect of positivity.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted July 9, 2016 10:48 am 0Likes

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts Colleen! It’s good to know others are experiencing the same transformation 🙂

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