Are You Playing the “My Life Is Harder Than Yours” Game?

I’ve been banging around on this planet for 36 years now, and over time I’ve noticed that as humans we often like to play the “my life is harder than yours” game.’

You know the one.

It’s the game of complaining to your friends how busy you are, how much work you’ve got to do or how crappy your boss is. It’s the game of one-upping anyone who shares a story of a challenging child, parent, friend or neighbor.

Additionally, it’s also the game of bemoaning your past. Reliving abuse, mistreatment, and problems in your childhood, and using them to excuse your struggles in your current life.

Give it up now.

If you’re playing the “my life is harder than yours” game, today I implore you to give it up. Call it quits. Let someone else win. After all, this is a game with no winners anyway.

Why? Because this game will keep you stuck in victim mode for your entire life if you let it. The more you stick to the script of your terrible, horrible life the longer you will continue to have a terrible, horrible life.

So your parents abused you as a child. Why let it continue to wreck havoc in your adult life? Why not let it be your reason for having the best adulthood ever?

So your girlfriend cheated on you. Why let her actions prevent you from finding a better girlfriend who is worthy of your love? Why not let it be the reason why you raise your standards and expect better for yourself?

So you suffered through a horrible death in the family three years ago. Why dishonor that person’s death by allowing it to keep you from being your best self? Why not honor that person’s contribution to your life by becoming something greater than you were before you lost him or her?

We get to choose how to respond to adversity.

Sorry if this is harsh, but it needs to be said. EVERYONE has mountains to climb in life. Some bigger than others, but we all have hurdles we are attempting to clear.

We all experience adversity, and this isn’t inherently a bad thing! Adversity can beat us down, but it can also lift us up if we allow it.

There are plenty of people out there who grew up poor, or sick, or in foster care, who made something of amazing of themselves. In fact, I’d go so far to say that those with the biggest hurdles in life actually have the best advantage to become something great.

Related Video: Rich People Don’t Complain.

Why? Because the biggest struggles provide the greatest incentives to reach for something higher. Hanging around in a really dark place can be a tremendous motivator to climb into the light as far as you possibly can. Experiencing the worst of the worst is the best possible reason to start running forward to claim something better for yourself.

Climb up out of the dark.

Just remember that getting out of your dark place has NOTHING to do with bitching and moaning about it. You can’t climb out of the hole if you just park your butt in there to chit chat with others about how bad it is. Instead, you’ve got to get up and choose a better life for yourself through your words, your actions and your intentions. 

Let go of the need to tell the same old story of woe over and over and over again. It doesn’t matter if everyone else is playing the “my life is harder than yours” game. It’s a losing game for all who choose to play it.

Stay positive. Give yourself some time to grieve your pain or deal with the stress, but don’t live there forever. Put your struggles in the past and let them be your reason for moving forward, not hanging back.

XO, Andrea

(Law of Attraction coach & educator)

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