Four Ways to Improve Your Relationship With The Law of Attraction

When you first fall in love with someone, he or she can do no wrong.  Your thoughts of them are blissful and everything they do makes you happy.  The “in love” feeling occurs because your brain is flooded with dopamine (a feel good neurotransmitter) every time you are around them, so just being present with your partner gets you high.  It’s a wonderful, spectacular feeling.

As time progresses, however, we become accustomed  to our partner, and that “in love” dopamine high often starts to wane.  By the second year of your relationship, the constant butterflies are likely to be mostly gone, and they have often be replaced with increasing moments of dissatisfaction, annoyance and bickering.  How can you get back to that “high” feeling of your early days together?

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Contrary to how many people in society operate, pointing out someone’s flaws and mistakes and “keeping it real” is completely counterproductive, and is a key reason as to why so many people experience dissatisfaction with their relationships.  In focusing on the negative traits, they only bring more of them about.

Using the Law of Attraction to your advantage is a great way to improve your relationship, and bring it back to a more loving place.  In short, all you have to do is do what you did in the early days of your relationship: focus on all of the things your partner is doing right and ignore all the flaws.  This is a recipe for appreciation, which causes the Law of Attraction to bring you a better relationship, which in turn leads to a more happiness and attraction between you and your partner.

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Below are four strategies that you can use to harness the power of the Law of Attraction and improve your relationship.  Start small with a few actions and you will find that it becomes very easy to find ways to appreciate and love your partner:

1. Whenever your partner does ANYTHING for you (takes out the trash, picks up the kids, pays you a compliment-anything nice at all) say “thank you,” and mean it.  Take a moment to really dwell on their kindness.

2. Pick out the features of your partner that you find most attractive, and tell them what they are (e.g., “you have a sexy voice,” “you’re very strong,” or “you have a nice smile”).  Your partner will love it, and in doing this the Law of Attraction will cause you to focus more on things that attract you to your partner.

3. The next time your partner does something that annoys you, redirect your thoughts to a more positive place by playing the devil’s advocate.  For example, when your wife snaps at you and you get upset, tell yourself something like this: “I doubt she was trying to hurt my feelings.  Chances are she is overwhelmed right now because she is working hard for us.  I appreciate that she works so hard for us.”

You don’t have to vocalize these statements to your partner.  Just taking the time to redirect your energy to a place of appreciation will be felt by the other person.  You will find that in playing the devil’s advocate to find a positive reason for their action, your partner will reduce or even completely stop doing the behavior that bothers you. 

4. Each day, take a moment to give what you wish to get from your relationship.  Give hugs, give help, give back rubs, give compliments, give small gifts, or give whatever it is that you would want.  With the Law of Attraction, you get what you give, so give as much as you can.

With daily practice using these strategies, you will find that you will become more satisfied with (and attracted to) your partner, and your partner will become more satisfied with (and attracted to) you.  Your brain will reward you with more dopamine, and you’ll feel more and more in love.  Work with the Law of Attraction bring back the relationship you once had.

XO, Andrea (Law of Attraction Educator)

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  • Anonymous
    Posted June 16, 2016 5:32 pm 0Likes

    i give a lot to my boyfriend…but hardly get anything back….so unfortunately i lose motivation to go on like this

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted June 16, 2016 6:57 pm 0Likes

    Hi Anonymous!

    From this short exchange I can’t say for sure, but I think you might benefit from focusing on self-love and self-care more than trying to fix the relationship right now. When we chronically put our needs second, everyone else does too! Of course, if the relationship is really not what you are wanting, it might be worth asking yourself “why do I put up with it?”….I find that when we believe we deserve love, we are unwilling to put up with being neglected.

    Long story short, put yourself first. Your boyfriend will treat you how you are treating yourself (that’s the LOA for ya!) so use this as an opportunity to enhance how you are treating yourself <3

    XO, Andrea

  • anneleen
    Posted June 17, 2016 4:59 pm 0Likes

    thank you…tou are so right

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted June 18, 2016 9:18 am 0Likes

    Thanks Anneleen! <3 PS. I love your name!

  • Sharon
    Posted June 26, 2018 3:33 pm 0Likes

    Hello lovely Amazing as always. I would so love if you could do a video on this. So much love to u xxxxx

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted June 27, 2018 1:12 pm 0Likes

    Thank you for your suggestion Sharon <3

  • SusieQ
    Posted December 3, 2018 4:53 pm 0Likes

    I’m starting to follow the law of attraction.. My question is do you tell people about it ?or do just keep it to yourself. cuz I’ve been wanting to tell people, but it feels like they get annoyed with me. Thank you . have a great day .

  • Sonya
    Posted December 4, 2018 1:34 am 0Likes

    You’re amazing. Thanks for such great content.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 4, 2018 1:33 pm 0Likes

    Thank you Sonya <3

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 4, 2018 1:34 pm 0Likes

    Great question SusieQ, and you are the second one to ask this one lately. I think I may make a video on this topic soon!

  • Rich
    Posted August 1, 2019 1:24 pm 0Likes

    Do you think we should try to save abusive relationships as well? Do you think LOA can transform a person even if they are physically and/or verbally abusive?

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted August 1, 2019 2:56 pm 0Likes

    I think in this instance Rich, the better question is “how can I love MYSELF?”

    While people can certainly change looking to shift an abusive person would be less effective than simply loving oneself more (as the former is externally focused, while the latter is internally).

  • Rich
    Posted August 2, 2019 5:16 am 0Likes

    Thank you so much ❤️

  • Anonymous
    Posted October 22, 2020 12:58 pm 0Likes

    there is true meaning to all of this. i have a desire to help a teen with a mental illness he is really struggling with hallucinations and he is emotionally drained, how might i help?

  • Anonymous
    Posted August 16, 2021 6:14 pm 0Likes

    I wish I found this article earlier. My boyfriend and I of 2 years broke up and I believe it’s because I was focusing on the negative instead of the positive. And not giving unconditionally or putting my needs first. How do I build the LOA back up so that we get back together, especially if we are not staying in touch?

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