Four Ways to Improve Your Relationship With The Law of Attraction
When you first fall in love with someone, he or she can do no wrong. Your thoughts of them are blissful and everything they do makes you happy. The “in love” feeling occurs because your brain is flooded with dopamine (a feel good neurotransmitter) every time you are around them, so just being present with your partner gets you high. It’s a wonderful, spectacular feeling.
As time progresses, however, we become accustomed to our partner, and that “in love” dopamine high often starts to wane. By the second year of your relationship, the constant butterflies are likely to be mostly gone, and they have often be replaced with increasing moments of dissatisfaction, annoyance and bickering. How can you get back to that “high” feeling of your early days together?
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Contrary to how many people in society operate, pointing out someone’s flaws and mistakes and “keeping it real” is completely counterproductive, and is a key reason as to why so many people experience dissatisfaction with their relationships. In focusing on the negative traits, they only bring more of them about.
Using the Law of Attraction to your advantage is a great way to improve your relationship, and bring it back to a more loving place. In short, all you have to do is do what you did in the early days of your relationship: focus on all of the things your partner is doing right and ignore all the flaws. This is a recipe for appreciation, which causes the Law of Attraction to bring you a better relationship, which in turn leads to a more happiness and attraction between you and your partner.
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Below are four strategies that you can use to harness the power of the Law of Attraction and improve your relationship. Start small with a few actions and you will find that it becomes very easy to find ways to appreciate and love your partner:
1. Whenever your partner does ANYTHING for you (takes out the trash, picks up the kids, pays you a compliment-anything nice at all) say “thank you,” and mean it. Take a moment to really dwell on their kindness.
2. Pick out the features of your partner that you find most attractive, and tell them what they are (e.g., “you have a sexy voice,” “you’re very strong,” or “you have a nice smile”). Your partner will love it, and in doing this the Law of Attraction will cause you to focus more on things that attract you to your partner.
3. The next time your partner does something that annoys you, redirect your thoughts to a more positive place by playing the devil’s advocate. For example, when your wife snaps at you and you get upset, tell yourself something like this: “I doubt she was trying to hurt my feelings. Chances are she is overwhelmed right now because she is working hard for us. I appreciate that she works so hard for us.”
You don’t have to vocalize these statements to your partner. Just taking the time to redirect your energy to a place of appreciation will be felt by the other person. You will find that in playing the devil’s advocate to find a positive reason for their action, your partner will reduce or even completely stop doing the behavior that bothers you.
4. Each day, take a moment to give what you wish to get from your relationship. Give hugs, give help, give back rubs, give compliments, give small gifts, or give whatever it is that you would want. With the Law of Attraction, you get what you give, so give as much as you can.
With daily practice using these strategies, you will find that you will become more satisfied with (and attracted to) your partner, and your partner will become more satisfied with (and attracted to) you. Your brain will reward you with more dopamine, and you’ll feel more and more in love. Work with the Law of Attraction bring back the relationship you once had.
XO, Andrea (Law of Attraction Educator)