You Get What You EXPECT With the LOA, NOT What You Want!

Many people give up on theLaw of Attraction because they believe it operates differently than it really does.  It’s important to remember that with the Law of Attraction, you don’t necessarily get what you want.  Instead, you get what you expect.

This is why many people react in disbelief when they are first told about the Law of Attraction. It can be challenging to reconcile the idea that you can have anything you want.  If you can create anything that you want in life, they say, then why is it impossible for people to do certain things?  For example, why can’t you fly or move things telepathically with your mind?

Well, the truth is, it isn’t impossible.  Indeed, anything is possible, even the most far-reaching, implausible and half-baked ideas can potentially manifest in our realities.

So yes, you could grow younger rather than older, win the lottery and own a farm of pigs that fly.  It is possible, because with the Law of Attraction all things are possible.

In fact, science teaches us that indeed there are no facts, and that you can only disprove a theory, but never prove one. This is why scientific theories are ever-changing and ever-improving; reality and existence are ever-changing and ever-improving. Our understanding of reality is constantly evolving, and things we believe to be impossible today may very well be possible in the future.

To conceptualize this idea, think of life today from the perspective of a person living in the middle ages.  Do you think a peasant from medieval times could even fathom driving his own car, receiving vacation pay and meeting women to date online? Probably not, yet as it turns out, these things are 100% a part of our current reality.

So then, if everything is possible, why do some things seem so very impossible? 

The answer? Because we expect them to be impossible.

Again, with the Law of Attraction, you don’t necessarily get what you want, instead you get what you expect.  This is a confusing factor for many people; they ask for what they want and they visualize what they want, but without the expectation the dream fails to manifest.  Then, they often give up on the Law of Attraction, even though the Law of Attraction is working precisely and predictably the way it should.

So, no matter how far-fetched or how believable your dream is, if it isn’t manifesting in your reality, it can mean only one thing: you don’t expect it to manifest, period.

Why haven’t you found your soul mate?  You get what  you expect and you don’t expect to find him or her.

Why don’t you have your dream job? You get what you expect and you don’t expect to have it.

Seriously-think about it! For everything that you want that hasn’t yet materialize, I guarantee that you simply don’t expect that you will have it.

Ok then, you say, what are we to do when we don’t expect our dreams to manifest?  How do we come to expect the impossible?

Well fortunately, expectations are adjustable and we change our expectations all of the time.  If you have an expectation that isn’t working for you, know that you can change it.

In fact, truth be told, you have adjusted your expectations countless times in your life!

I guarantee that you have achieved many things that at one time seemed impossible.  I know for a fact you have lived to see many things you never expected to see at one point. 

How do I know this?  Well, that’s just the nature of living.  We were born to expand and adjust our expectations; that’s what this journey of life is all about.

So if you are struggling to cultivate expectation in your dream, take heart because developing expectation is something you’ve done subconsciously many times and it’s something you are very skilled at. Further, if you’d like to consciously adjust your expectations about a given dream, know that there are things you can do!

One suggestion is to start small and practice by gently adjusting your expectations daily.  This is a low pressure, fun way to work with the Law of Attraction and see your intentions manifesting consistently.

Instead of trying to manifest the soul mate relationship right now, start by asking the universe to simply see more attractive people each day.  Instead of trying to manifest the jackpot winnings right this minute, ask to manifest a reality where you find a few quarters on the ground.  Instead of trying to manifest the dream job, ask to manifest a good day at work.

When you become good at manifesting your initial requests, move a bit further.  Ask the universe to manifest a conversation with someone attractive.  Ask the universe to help you find a couple of dollars.  As the universe for some recognition at work. 

Build slowly, and keep adjusting your practice outward.  Start where you believe, and gently reach for more.  This is one way to build momentum with the Law of Attraction and change your expectations about what you can manifest.

Of course, if you’d like some assistance in adjusting your expectations, I’m available for one-on-one Law of Attraction mentoring and I also administer a membership website you are more than welcome to join.

XO, Andrea

Law of Attraction Educator

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  • Craig
    Posted December 8, 2015 4:20 pm 0Likes

    Hi Andrea,

    You have a lot of great tools on your site and I am immediately drawn to several of them. It’s funny about the Law of Attraction: I was drawn to your website through its link with the Conscious Life website. And I was drawn to the Conscious Life website because I received a phone call from someone there–and they had called the wrong number! Curious, I looked it up online…and, well, it was obviously no accident as far as I am concerned!

    I look forward to further exploring your site!

    All the Best,


  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 8, 2015 5:07 pm 0Likes

    Craig-that’s a pretty funny story! Sounds like synchronicity to me 🙂 Here’s an article about synchronicity for you:

    All the best,
    Andrea 🙂

  • Jayati
    Posted December 9, 2015 12:03 am 0Likes

    Hi Andrea ,
    I have been following you since one year and you are doing such a wonderful job .Thanks for writing such great articles about law of attraction .
    I am struggling with ‘something’ since 4 years .I always ask for sign and i get it ,but it comes to manifesting that ‘THING’ .I haven’t got it yet.I try really hard to be positive and optimistic. I seriously dont want to give up on something i want it so badly.
    I have invested 4 years of life on that ‘THING’ .I really want to have that.
    Can you please help on this..?

    Good Day,

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 9, 2015 8:54 am 0Likes

    Hi Jayati!

    Thanks so much for following my blog…it is very much appreciated!

    As for your question…this is a common issue many people deal with regarding the LOA. When we want “too much,” we actually end up pushing away the thing we want. In order to receive the things we want we must relax into the process, make peace with where we are and then go about the business of trying to get happy.

    I hope this advice helps!


  • Jayati
    Posted December 9, 2015 10:42 am 0Likes

    Thanks for the help!

    Would appreciate if you start a LOA program for 30 days! So that your daily follower like me can actually learn to use LOA.

    Love & power

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 9, 2015 1:03 pm 0Likes

    Hi Jayati 🙂

    A 30 day course would be a good idea. I am getting ready to create some courses on Udemy, and I think that your idea might be a good fit for that. Thanks for the suggestion!

  • Jayati
    Posted December 9, 2015 11:56 pm 0Likes

    Hi Andrea ,
    Great that you liked my suggestion ! I would also request to write an article about ‘how to keep trust and peace into process’ .Because reality is hitting really very hard and being happy becomes tough.

    Good Day !

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 10, 2015 9:33 am 0Likes

    Thanks for the article suggestion Jayati! I appreciate it as I am always looking for inspiration 🙂

    As for your current state, just hold on! This is temporary, and it will pass. Give yourself permission to feel the way you do, and let yourself off the hook. You are learning these skills and getting practice…and when you get on the other side of things you will see how this period of time was ultimately a tremendous help.

    Remember, no one expects you to be perfect (and neither should you!). When we feel bad for “failing” at happiness we only dive deeper into the tough times, so make it your intention to cut yourself some slack and go easy on yourself. This too shall pass, and you WILL find your way back into the light!

    Feel better!

    Andrea <3

  • Jayati
    Posted December 11, 2015 5:05 am 0Likes

    Thanks Andrea for the useful advice 🙂
    I always used to wonder that how can universe take this much time to give me something.But i have come to realize one thing that its not universe ,its me who had kept myself waiting for 4 years .It’s my vibration who never matched with the universe’s .

    I hope i will be a match very soon!


  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 11, 2015 11:50 am 0Likes

    Well, Jayati, that’s a really great thing to know! It sounds like you “get” that we are 100% responsible for our creations, and until we fully accept and appreciate that fact it can be challenging to consciously create on a consistent basis 🙂

    As long as we push responsibility off on other people, the universe or circumstances we hand our power away. Congratulations on coming to this broader understanding, it will serve you well!

  • Bren Murphy
    Posted June 3, 2016 6:05 am 0Likes

    Hi Andrea,
    Really appreciate all your resources and info here – I have come here through links all over the place and it is funny how I end up at a Law of Attraction site!! Must mean something for me, no doubt.

    Very grateful for all your hard work.
    I appreciate it.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted June 3, 2016 9:36 am 0Likes

    Hi Bren!

    Sounds like synchronicity to me-would you agree? Thank you for your kind words, they are very much appreciated!

    Best wishes to you.

    XO, Andrea

  • Anonymous
    Posted November 11, 2017 9:51 pm 0Likes

    jus one word…” I am your fan”

  • Roberta
    Posted November 12, 2017 2:53 pm 0Likes

    Andrea – I had to write and tell you about my experience today after reading this awesome article (as ALL your articles are!). This morning when I read this particular article, it really spoke to me. I’ve been struggling with this issue for a bit now and this seemed like the perfect fix. Start small and prove you can do it. I decided I “expect” to find some money today. Don’t care if it’s a penny, nickle, quarter or hundred dollar bill (although that would be my preference LOL!). I don’t really care what the amount is, however; I just EXPECT to find some money today to prove to myself how powerful I am. I got a feeling within my body that’s difficult to describe. It’s as if the core within my body – the verticle line from head to my bottom along which the chakras reside – felt lighter than the rest of my body. If nothing else happened today, that feeling alone would have satisfied me. So I meet a friend for breakfast, and I’m searching the parking lot for coins on my way into the restaurant and when I left. Nothing. Ran a few errands and seached the parking lots each time I got out of the car for “pennies from heaven.” Nothing. I’d forgotten about my expectation when I ran to Micro Center to grab an iTunes gift card and didn’t search the parking lot. Took my $25 gift card to the cashier and she said, “That’s $20.” “But,” I said, “it’s a $25 gift card and Apple NEVER discounts anything.” Long story just a bit shorter… There was no sale on the gift card. The cashier indicated she was going to tell her manager about the “error” (oh no it wasn’t!) but that since tha’ts the way it rang up and she’d already quoted me the $20, she had to honor it. I found my money – $5 – just as I’d expected!! I’ve been smiling ever since.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted November 12, 2017 7:40 pm 0Likes

    Beautiful Roberta-well done and thank you for sharing! <3

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted November 12, 2017 7:41 pm 0Likes

    Thanks Anonymous! 🙂

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