3 Symptoms of A Lost Soul

Lost souls are people who are spiritually adrift.  For whatever reason, these individuals have blocked the intuitive guidance coming from their higher selves.  In doing this, they have also cut themselves off from feeling the infinite love of the universe, and this leads to struggle, anger and sadness.  As a result, a lost soul’s life is very challenging.

If you are currently working to raise your vibration and follow your highest path, you probably find it difficult to interact with lost souls.   These individuals can be some of the most frustrating people to deal with because they radiate lower vibrational energy, and the way that they interact with others can be quite off-putting.

However, if we want to help these people we must react with sympathy, rather than anger and hostility.  Lost souls need unconditional love more than the rest of us because they are so starved for it.  Although this may be challenging at times, love and acceptance are really the only things we can give to help others who have lost their way.

So, here are some of the frustrating symptoms of a lost soul, and how best for us to react in order to help them:

1. Defensiveness: a lost soul is someone who is operating from their ego, not from their higher self.  Because they are largely ego-driven, lost souls will often feel the need to defend their positions and assert that they are always right, and always know best.  Even friendly advice that will genuinely help a lost soul is often  immediately discarded with a “Yeah, but…” followed by a list of reasons why they believe the advice won’t work for them.

Your best reaction to this defensiveness? Accept it.  Do not engage in an argument with a lost soul, even if you feel like your advice is exactly what they need.

Remember, lost souls are blocking their inner guidance, so they will very likely block beneficial advice from wherever it is coming from.  The best you can do is lay your ideas on the table, but then back away from the discussion when they push against it.

Surprisingly, when I have done this in the past I have noticed that many such individuals will later tell me “I remember when you told me such-and-such, that was really good advice!”  The thing about lost souls is that they do not like to have their egos challenged, so if you do not debate against their rebuttals they are far more likely to listen to your well-intended advice because they didn’t feel threatened by your approach.

2. Closed-mindedness: Many times lost souls will not be interested in accepting different people and different choices.

Again, the higher self is all-loving, and all-accepting.  If someone is blocking the unconditional love from their higher self, they will be unable to radiate unconditional love to others.  As a result, their “love” will only be given out to certain people who are behaving in a way that their ego approves of.

Because of this, you will often see lost souls manifest themselves into people who are intolerant of other religions, bigoted, racist, homophobic or misogynistic.

Your best reaction?  If you feel as if something a lost soul tells you is intolerant or abusive towards others, very kindly tell them that it bothers you when they say things like that and then drop it.

Remember, arguing with a lost soul is always a waste of time.  Speak your mind and then move on.  If you do not challenge a lost soul’s ego, you will have the best shot at being heard.

3. Repeating the same mistakes, over and over again: It may take any of us a few tries to learn a lesson in life, but with a lost soul the pattern endlessly repeats itself.

You may often see a lost soul hopping from one abusive relationship to another, chronically being broke and out of work or even repeatedly being arrested and incarcerated.

To be clear, none of us is perfect, and we’re all making mistakes in some way.  However,  a lost soul’s repeated mistakes are very painful and can cause them a lifetime of personal grief.

Your reaction? Realize, yet again, that a lost soul has severed ties with the love of the universe, therefore they do not understand how to make choices based on self-love.  A lost soul has forgotten how to care for him or herself.

These individuals are not making their life decisions because they are trying to hurt themselves or anyone else, but rather because they have become blind to the guidance of the universe.  In fact, quite often they make poor choices because they are simply trying to distract themselves or numb the pain of the emptiness they feel from being spiritually disconnected.

Please do not judge them, do not chastise them, and do not belittle their struggles.  Accept them where they are, and love them anyways.

This doesn’t mean that you should allow them to pull you into their chaotic storms, but do let them know that you care about them and you want the very best for them.  Loving them from afar still counts!

It can indeed be very frustrating to deal with a lost soul.  The defensiveness, close-mindedness, and continuous self-harm can be very unpleasant to witness and interact with.

That being said, it’s good to remember that we are all on our own paths, and we each have the option of traveling through life in the way that we choose.  Although we may have found a higher calling, the lost souls are choosing to experience life in a limited way-and that’s their choice.

Not a one of us would want to be forced to think or believe something against our will, and if we want the freedom of choice for ourselves we must allow the freedom of choice in others, even when we feel their choices are damaging and hurtful.  We can speak our truths, but we shouldn’t feel the need to take on the job of changing the thoughts, beliefs and actions of others.

At the end of the day, all we can really do for the lost souls of the world is accept and love them as they are while being as happy, healthy and prosperous as we can be.  If we can shine brightly enough, we just might provide enough light to help a lost soul find its way back home.  

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  • Wilfred
    Posted February 17, 2015 8:13 pm 0Likes

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  • Ms.W
    Posted February 20, 2015 10:05 am 0Likes

    You have described so much of me. I am a lost soul.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted February 20, 2015 10:10 am 0Likes

    Well then, Ms. W.-I hope that there is something useful for you here 🙂 I’m glad you stopped by!

    Much Love,


  • Tara
    Posted February 21, 2015 11:08 am 0Likes

    I love this article. This is exactly what i’ve dealt with my ex. I was always trying to communicate and talk to him and find out what is happening in his mind and his brain but it was a total waste of time. I was always feeling departed and alone. Now that im thinking he might have been a lost one, i got lost too and now after couple of days im finding myself and im so happy.
    Thanks for your great article 🙂

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted February 21, 2015 12:19 pm 0Likes

    I’m glad this article resonated with you Tara. Wish you all the best 🙂

  • Ewa
    Posted July 2, 2015 4:50 am 0Likes

    Hi Andrea,i love your article!
    That i am a lost soul,i knew a long time ago.I did not know what is wrong with me.I did the same mistake all over again,i was 4 time married and i am only 36 years old.All my marriages lasted 5 years,all of them!I was only independent once in my life for a few years…and that is what i want the most.To be independent and to have a home to call my own.Right now i am in my 4th divorce and staying again!without a home.My 4th marriage although made me start to want to know whats wrong with me…so i started reading books from authors like Dr. Weiss,Ramtha,Ruiz,Tolle…they helped a lot,but…
    do you have any advice for me what else i could do to help myself,i’ll appreciate it a lot.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted July 2, 2015 7:43 am 0Likes

    Thanks Ewa! I appreciate your comment. It’s hard to feel lost-I understand.
    I wrote a follow up piece to this article to help identify some areas that may help for those who identify as lost souls. Check it out! I hope you find it useful
    All the best

  • Ewa
    Posted July 4, 2015 5:51 pm 0Likes

    Thank you very very much!

  • NV
    Posted August 26, 2016 1:57 pm 0Likes

    I do not operate from the ego (lot of work has been done to release my ego) and i dont repeat same mistakes again and again and i am not abusive or intolerant or racist.

    However, I am experiencing closed mindedness to the extent of NO self love and unable to radiate unconditional love to others.
    Any advice on how i can overcome that Andrea?

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted August 26, 2016 8:47 pm 0Likes

    Good question NV! For me, it helps to see others as an extension or a reflection of myself. When they suffer, I suffer. When they are happy, I am happy. 🙂 <3

  • NV
    Posted August 27, 2016 9:13 am 0Likes

    thank you

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted August 27, 2016 1:26 pm 0Likes


  • Danielle
    Posted March 27, 2017 9:53 am 0Likes

    Hi, I’ve read about the artical and its like it was meant just for me, I know longer know how to feel or what to do. I am constantly unhappy, fighting with the people I love, its becoming really bad.. I also discovered that in my relationship with my bf im the one repeatedly making the same mistakes. His at a point where his really just getting tired of us fighting. I dont want it to be like that cause i really love him.. please help.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted March 28, 2017 8:40 am 0Likes

    Hi Danielle, I wrote an article on improving relationships a few years ago you might find useful. Here is the link. Much love <3

  • Anonymous
    Posted April 9, 2017 11:51 am 0Likes

    Wow I always felt my “ex” was a lost soul but not really understanding the true meaning o a lost soul. Reading your article you describe her perfectly truly she is a lost soul and yet you are right – that is her decision to remain lost. Thank you.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted April 11, 2017 12:12 pm 0Likes

    Thanks for your kind words Anonymous <3

  • Umair
    Posted April 14, 2017 9:10 am 0Likes

    I find very puzzling when people who claim that they are not lost soul and that their statement I quote “Lost Soul has made their own choices” while ignoring the fact that tragedy that made the individual’s soul as the lost soul is a result of choices of those who claimed to be not lost soul that hurt them so much pushing them to dark corner of the life.
    It is evident, that choices of strong individual’s who wish to adopt and admire the life better completely found negligent about their choices that hurt individuals who are sensitive; are acceptable then those who (Lost soul) wish for a better system.
    As an Engineer, explorer and student of life, to me it appears humanity is admitting its failure for not making a difference in prevention of abuse that creates the Lost Soul.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted April 14, 2017 9:35 am 0Likes

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts Umair <3

  • LS
    Posted April 14, 2017 12:31 pm 0Likes

    I think were all lost souls in some way or another

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted April 16, 2017 1:14 pm 0Likes

    Perhaps that is all part of the journey, at least-it was for me! 🙂

  • Jenni
    Posted April 23, 2017 1:50 pm 0Likes

    Hi Andrea,

    Great post. I was wondering if you could give me a bit of advice. Someone I dated told me he was a lost soul, but I am running out of ideas on how to help him. I think he may possibly be borderline personality [ he has a lot of the symptoms….] he told me back in February he was a lost soul, and asked me to steer the “relationship” as without my dominance he is a lost soul. I am not a controlling person, I tried to show him I cared but he keeps doing things to hurt me.

    He was meant to be coming home in April, but yet again he has blocked me… I honestly have spoken to so many people about it, and I can’t figure out what it is I have actually done wrong. 🙁 I don’t even know if he is back in the country. I did want to see him again, because despite the fact we may not get back together I really care and when someone tells you they’re a lost soul it’s not an easy thing to just dismiss! I’ve missed out a lot of information… I am trying to care from afar because he is hurting me a lot, but I also am concerned about his wellbeing. Please help!

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted April 24, 2017 9:43 am 0Likes

    Hi Jenni

    In my opinion, I always think it’s best to put your personal needs first and foremost. If you are feeling hurt or down or dark, you just can’t be of service to anyone else.

    In a situation like this I personally would take step back from trying to “help” the other person. Helping implies there is something wrong with the other person, which only causes us to amplify the “wrongness” of his situation. What we focus on, after all, expands. Helping people heal is in many ways coming to view them as powerful beings perfectly capable of their own healing and transcendence.

    This doesn’t mean you have to kick this person out of your life, but rather to avoid making it your mission to be his savior. Be your own savior, and try your best to see him as capable of being his own. That is the greatest service you can do for anyone <3


  • Anonymous
    Posted July 10, 2017 10:30 pm 0Likes

    Im a lost soul, and I have to say is a big FUCK YOU

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted July 11, 2017 11:42 am 0Likes

    I’ll accept that and send a hug in response <3 Wish you all the best, you are loved.

  • Neelu
    Posted October 14, 2017 12:43 pm 0Likes

    Hi Andrea. YES! I am a lost soul. I have all the symptoms. I work from Ego completely, my arguments are never ending, and I am close mindedness. I
    remember I changed as a person after a traumatic incident. I feel disconnected with the world completely. I dont have friends and I m not good with my loved ones either! Its a painful life! Pls help me to be back to normal like i was before !! Warm Regards

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted October 14, 2017 3:39 pm 0Likes

    Hi Neelu:) Well, I would say you must not be entirely ego-oriented, as you appear to be very self-aware, so that’s definitely a plus! Most of us will experience severe disconnection at some time in life, so it’s ok to be where you are. Here’s an article I wrote about climbing back into the light a long time ago you may find useful if you are interested. <3

  • Anonymous
    Posted October 15, 2017 2:00 am 0Likes

    Thanks Andrea for your quick and kind reply!

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted October 16, 2017 11:16 am 0Likes

    Most welcome Anonymous!

  • mr.N
    Posted March 12, 2019 1:17 pm 0Likes

    i don’t know if i am a lost soul, its i can’t seem to find my real self or soul like i became a body without one before, i like the information u given thank you

  • James Ciambor
    Posted May 16, 2019 7:37 pm 0Likes

    I have a confession to make I’m a lost soul. Resistance to the universe has become a pathway to self-destruction for me. This may be irreversible. The universe has sent warnings and punishments because I did accept things as they are. Well I don’t want to because I have to accept a reality where I basically lost everything. Lost my afterlife, my connection to God. I don’t want to be separated from God, separated from the spirit world, or separated spiritually in anyway. I don’t want to be separated from my higher-self just because of some old hostility or hate I held in my heart. The Universe will never convince me to accept things as they are because it is demanding way to many negative things in my life. I can no longer manifest positive things in my life. In fact it seems impossible to.

  • James Ciambor
    Posted May 16, 2019 8:04 pm 0Likes

    I have a confession to make I’m a lost soul. Resistance to the universe has become a pathway to self-destruction for me. This may be irreversible. The universe has sent warnings and punishments because I did accept things as they are. Well I don’t want to because I have to accept a reality where I basically lost everything. Lost my afterlife, my connection to God. I don’t want to be separated from God, separated from the spirit world, or separated spiritually in anyway. I don’t want to be separated from my higher-self just because of some old hostility or hate I held in my heart.

  • Phillipa Pfyne
    Posted January 19, 2020 10:42 pm 0Likes

    I am a lost soul. I think l overshot my runway & landed here by mistake. I see the world as a kind of money & status theme Park. I can’t get traction because l don’t agree with the way women are treated as second rate blokes. I am a hoarder & l have a son who may be autistic/ gifted. Any help?

  • Anonymous
    Posted June 2, 2020 1:59 pm 0Likes

    Thank you for a meaningful piece. As a Mother , a Hebrew & someone who has experienced about every emotion. I resonate d with the Journey & Fight from being abused, Court Battles, lost of Family & Friends. To move your Conscious from a ,”lost Soul”, takes Christ. Your Article, I located after praying, ” Having a little talk w/ God”, @ another milestone, and I gotton nothing but “Signs”, messages today from Angels, I am a Fighter w/ Christ but that’s 🔑 you have to keep fighting. Fasting, Prayer, truly being a student of God’s work. I come from nothing, little education, but worked, got the house by the Ocean, paid off the Car, lost the 80,000 Truck, but again not listening to that” Inner voice”. Im starting School for my Bachelor, Today is important, your words were, “Clear”, Im sure God want you to know. Im motivated again, God help me if I allow that “Spirt” lost Soul is a person under a Spiritual attack, ie

  • Sofia
    Posted October 31, 2021 11:45 am 0Likes

    What happens when one feels that a family member that has passed away is making contact as a lost soul but is just playing around and causing pain, rather than being a guardian angel? How can one fight through this out-of-this world darkness…? An energy-draining ‘presence’? Thank you in advance

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