Create a Safer World For Your Kids With The Law of Attraction
Are you worried about how safe the world is for your kids? These days parents seem much more concerned about the safety of their children than parents did when I was a kid.
Of course, all of us want a safe world for our children, and I am no exception. However, I think there is a disconnect between how safe we want our kids to be and the world we are actually creating for our kids.
I believe this disconnect is caused by our fixation on fear instead of an expectation of safety.
Have you even noticed that the parents who are most obsessed with safety seem to be the ones whose children are most likely to get sick or injured? For me, this has been most obvious with children and illness. I can’t tell you how many times I have noticed that the germaphobe parents invariably have the sickest kids, but if you follow the Law of Attraction it makes perfect sense: if you are expecting illness, you will attract it.
Marianne Williamson said it best when she wrote “Children are happy because they don’t have a file in their minds called ‘All the Things That Could Go Wrong.’” As parents, we should be nurturing this state of being if we want our children to stay in that higher vibrational state.
Ultimately, if we want our children to be safe it is very important that they (and we) are happy and unconcerned. Happy and unconcerned people create happy and unconcerned circumstances. Upset and concern people create upset and concerned circumstances. Therefore, it would be wonderful if we could find a way to keep our children from filing away all of the negative possibilities.
Unfortunately, the way that many parents interact with their children often makes it nearly impossible for their children to grow up to be unconcerned.
This is not to say that any parent intends for their child to attract scary circumstances. It is actually quite the opposite. Parents are often operating from a place of fear, diving into that folder to evaluate everything that could go wrong and trying to control outcomes as much as possible to keep bad things from happening.
I even find myself doing this at times, despite the fact that I know better! It’s hard to get rid of that file once you have it, and as long as you rely on it to make your parenting decisions it will stay active in your vibration. You will make fear-based decisions, and your children will learn to be fearful by witnessing your reactions to fear.
Why is it so hard for us to look away from these files of things that could go wrong?
It might be the sheer magnitude of items that they contain! Our files are stuffed to the brim, particularly when it comes to the safety of our children.
We are terrified of SIDS, so we put a monitor in the baby’s room and check on the baby throughout the night, even if that means that we are disallowing ourselves precious sleep.
We strap our babies into a car seat using a five point harness that looks like it’s designed to lock an astronaut in for takeoff. We make sure this astronaut cage is in the back of the car, and is rear-facing rather than forward-facing, because we want to reduce the incident of injury in the event of a crash.
We then strap the baby into this contraption dozens of times simply to take him or her to the doctor’s office for check-ups, even though our baby isn’t even sick.
As our baby grows older, we baby proof every nook and cranny in our homes. We are reluctant to let people babysit. At Halloween, many of us refuse to let our kids trick-or-treat in neighborhoods, opting instead for safer “trunk-or-treats” or trick-or-treating at the mall.
We don’t let our kids play outside as much as our parents did. We slather our children with hand sanitizer and SPF 100 sunscreen. We vaccinate and medicate, and overall underrate our children’s ability to be and stay well. I could go on and on but I think you get the point…
As I look over this list, I am thinking to myself that I don’t know if I could give up all of these things! I can’t even suggest that you stop doing these things all at once, because it is just too scary.
But this just serves to prove the point that this file of “All the Things That Could Go Wrong” is very, very active in many parents. I know it would be unreasonable to expect that all parents stop doing all of these things, even though every single one of them is a fear-based action.
I would even go so far to say that it would be gravely irresponsible to ask people to stop doing all of these things at once because it would likely create even more fear. Many parents would be terrified by the “what-ifs” of not following through with these actions.
By stopping all at once, some parents would go into complete panic, and panic is not a vibrational state you want to stay in to improve your well-being! So, with that being said, can we ever dispose of the items in this file? Are we all doomed to continue this cycle of fear?
Well, worry not. As in all things relating to Law of Attraction, the key is to do your work comfortably and in moderation.
To pare down this file so that you are able to create an expectation of safety you will have to start small and allow this idea to generate momentum naturally on its own. So start just on the edge of your comfort level. Push just enough to make a movement in this direction without overwhelming ourself.
Do a few little “fearless” things and progress to bigger things only as you feel comfortable. As you complete some small “fearless” actions, the universe will deliver more opportunities for you to do more of the same. Your comfort level with being unconcerned will naturally grow as you put the Law of Attraction to work for you.
Over time, you will begin to feel that the world is a safer place and your kids will get the same message. Your inner belief in a safer world will result in an outer world that is actually safer because you create your reality with your thoughts and beliefs.
It depends on where you are on the fear scale as to which “fearless” actions you could start with, but here are some real-life examples of actions I have taken to move towards expecting safety and security.
1. When my daughter was a kindergartener, I was too afraid to let her ride the bus. Now, as a first grader, she rides the bus and walks home from the bus stop on her own with the older kids. This makes her feel like a big kid, and I have learned to trust her to handle this task responsibly. My fear of the bus has evaporated completely, and she loves riding it every day.
2. As a high school teacher, I started challenging myself to leave my purse out in the open, unattended. I did this for four solid years and never once experienced any theft. It felt good to trust my students and taught me a lot about expecting positive things from people.
3. I recently started to let my daughter play outside with some of the bigger kids (8-9) without supervision. She’s six. She appreciates the freedom and looks forward to this time with friends after school. I am grateful that she now gets exercise outside every day rather than sitting in front of the idiot box (TV) for hours on end watching violence and advertising. We’d be missing out on this benefit if I was still too afraid to let her out of the house unattended.
4. When my son was two he was unable to swim but wanted to swim on his own just like his big sister. I decided to put arm floaties on him and let him “swim” by himself by floating in the pool. I and even let him jump into the deep end while I sat on the sidelines out of reach and worked on my tan.
It terrified a lot of people at the pool, but I learned very quickly that he was perfectly fine and as an added benefit he learned how to swim on his own. I also got to enjoy some quiet time while the kids played and had fun.
These are just a few examples, but they’ve expanded my trust in my ability to create a safe world for my children through my expectations. I challenge you to find a few ways that you can trust safety over fear and gradually put this idea into practice. Momentum will naturally build as you slowly try to expect health and safety for your children and yourself.
Over time, you will start to see the file of things that can go wrong get smaller and smaller. Your children will continue to be happy and unconcerned just as they should be.
All you have to do is give the universe an opportunity to demonstrate its ability to deliver a healthy, happy and unconcerned environment.