How Does the Law of Attraction Explain Child Abuse?

Today, one of my blog readers asked a very poignant question regarding the Law of Attraction: How does the Law of Attraction explain child abuse?

I think this is a fantastic question, and one that deserves to be addressed at length. It’s definitely a controversial topic in our community, so I know there will be a number of opinions about it. Here’s my take:

As a young child, I endured a number of personal traumas. I won’t get into the specifics, but you may assume I was too young to be aware of mindfulness and the power of my thoughts.

So, how did I attract these traumas? Certainly, I wasn’t trying to create a negative, painful reality for myself at that age! Certainly I was far too young to have generated so much negative momentum.  I wasn’t alive long enough to “think” these problems into existence!

However, through learning about consciousness and the Law of Attraction, I have personally resolved this question in a way that is meaningful to me and has given me the clarity I’ve needed to accept (and even appreciate) my childhood adversity.

I have come to believe that it’s possible we’ve come into these lives with choice before our birth.  That our conscious awareness is eternal, and so therefore before this lifetime it was focused somewhere else.  This “pre-life” focus created our circumstances at the time of our birth, and its momentum was powerful enough to carry us through early childhood.

If this is true, and our consciousness was “alive” before this lifetime, perhaps we actually attracted the circumstances of our childhood from this “pre-life” conscious focus. Therefore, maybe early victims of child abuse, poverty and violence are not victims at all, but instead have actually chosen to experience these realities before birth through a previous awareness or lifetime.

Beyond that, I have come to believe that when a child is born into a dark reality, he or she has a valuable opportunity to take a crash course in conscious transformation, and this can be greatly beneficial.

To explain why I think childhood adversity can be advantageous, let me share some thoughts from one of my favorite Law of Attraction teachers: Abraham-Hicks.

If you follow Abraham at all, you’ll hear them talk a lot about “contrast,” which is their word for unwanted circumstances and events.  Abraham states over and over again that contrast provides us with clarity to let us know what we want, and that the movement out of the contrast is one of the most powerful, and rewarding, experiences we can ever have in this lifetime.

In other words, they say that experiencing sadness and pain is actually a good thing because it gives us an opportunity to transform that sadness and pain into love and light.

This idea has resonated strongly with me, as I feel it is an accurate representation of how my life has been unfolding since childhood. 

I started off in this life in a dark place, but as time has gone on I’ve been climbing toward a life that is more in line with what I really want.  The transition out of the darkness was extremely powerful and rewarding, and today I look back on my childhood traumas with gratitude.  They provided me with an opportunity to test my ability to create life the way I wanted it to be. 

It took me a long time to genuinely appreciate this lesson, but it was a journey worth taking and one I am very, very proud of.

As a former high school teacher, I’ve met many children over the years who have also endured early childhood adversity.  Many of these children’s stories seem to mirror mine, and they’ve demonstrated to me that experiencing darkness can ultimately help you reach further into the light.

It’s as if you are a bouncy ball and the farther down you are dropped, the higher you can bounce back up.   As Abraham explains it, you’re like an arrow that has been pulled back on the bow so far that once you find your power you release the resistance and shoot off on a wave of creative energy.

I think back to one particular student I had several years ago, who had endured massive loss and poverty early in life.  However, he was one of the sharpest, kindest, most positive and most influential students I’d ever had.  Needless to say, I was astounded when I learned about his troubled past.

Today this young man is out making his dreams become a reality.  Instead of following the traditional path so many kids are on, he has the guts to go after what he really, really wants.  I am 100% certain he is going to make a name for himself, because he has more than it takes to get there.

Perhaps this young man’s past is what helped him become the remarkable individual he is today. Maybe the pain and sadness is what inspires and motivates him.  Maybe he’s known what hell is, so he isn’t afraid to take a chance and make this life count.  All I know is this kid is winning big today, and his story has been an inspiration to many.

So, I don’t have all of the answers regarding how the Law of Attraction explains child abuse, but my gut tells me that our little people who are suffering right now are tough little soldiers, who may have signed up for a war in order to have the chance to prove to themselves that they are capable of creating great things. Yes, some get lost on the path, but those who find their power are often able to transform their pain into meaning and clarity.

In fact, many famous and successful people have transcended their dark beginnings, including several noteworthy advocates of the Law of Attraction.  For example, Jack Canfield (of “The Secret” and “Chicken Soup from the Soul”), Tony Robbins and Oprah Winfrey have all gone on record to speak about early child abuse in their lives. 

It’s something to keep in mind.  In no way do I condone child abuse, so the purpose of this article isn’t to give abusers a pass for their choices.  I don’t spank my kids and I believe in nonviolence.  I know that great people can evolve from being loved in childhood and that there are many examples of this in our world today. 

The message of this article is simply to say that perhaps our little children are a lot more powerful than we give them credit for being. 

Perhaps these kids have chosen a difficult path because they have the power to transform it.  Perhaps they are practicing their creative abilities in order to do big things for the universe. Perhaps when we believe in their ability to create, our collective energy will help empower them so more of them may overcome their adversity and thrive as they grow.

So what do you think about this subject?  I know it’s a controversial one, so there are probably some differing opinions out there!   Comment below and share your thoughts.

Thanks for reading,

Andrea

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60 Comments

  • Bobby
    Posted November 13, 2015 11:06 am 0Likes

    Ugh Andrea I love you! I love this article and you always have a way that personifies any situation and creates such a visual in my head that resonates and relates to my life so well!!!

    Firstly, I am sorry for whatever you experienced as a child yet — I (not in a sick way) am happy it happened because I too agree it created the beautiful AMAZING person you are today! If things had been more perhaps traditional who knows if youd be as powerful and impactful as you are today?! ya know?!

    I hope to hear more about this young man who has so much going for him! I feel as a school teacher (essentially you still are a teacher to many such as myself), you had the opportunity to connect to so many kids and Im sure theyll always appreciate all that they learned from you!

    I really enjoyed this article. It opened me eyes to another opposition — perhaps we attracted this life pre-birth. As much as that can be a hard pill to swallow — even thinking about my life now; how could I have attracted THIS?! lmao! I love it though because I KNOW I am responsible for everything and I absolutely love that. I really really really appreciate this website so much! It makes me feel sane for my thinking!

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted November 13, 2015 12:37 pm 0Likes

    Hi Bobby! Thanks for your kind words, I really appreciate it. I did love teaching, and still do! You, by the way, are an amazing student. I am very impressed with your ability to assimilate this information and apply it to your life <3 Have a fantastic weekend, Andrea

  • Kat
    Posted August 21, 2016 9:17 am 0Likes

    I am with you on the Pre-birth agreements…I also think that we choose to come back to work on things. Such as for me I know that I have encountered some of the same people before in other lifetimes. I know that I have learned and grown from the experience and I feel finished with them. There are people that I feel I have unfinished business with and hope to encounter again next lifetime. So why would my sexual abuse not come from unfinished business or wanting to work on moving through it this life time. Perhaps there was another lifetime that I was unable to move through it or it killed me. I choose to come back again and work on it. To me this is a valid explanation to my choosing sexual abuse as a child.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted August 21, 2016 12:24 pm 0Likes

    Very interesting Kat! Yes, I hear what you are saying. I’ve recently started following Delores Cannon’s work on past lives and it agrees a lot with what you’ve said here. I’m actually going to link up one of her videos in a few days on my blog because I found it so fascinating! <3

  • Anonymous
    Posted November 15, 2016 2:50 am 0Likes

    I have come to believe that it’s possibly we’ve come into these lives with choice before our birth. That our conscious awareness is eternal, and so therefore before this lifetime it was focused somewhere else. This “pre-life” focus created our circumstances at the time of our birth, and its momentum was powerful enough to carry us through early childhood.

    What a terrible thing to say to victims of sexual child abuse….you should be ashamed.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted November 15, 2016 9:34 am 0Likes

    Hi Anonymous

    For me, this perspective has helped me take the sting out of my own experiences with abuse, but I realize some people may interpret this understanding in a different way.

    Best wishes to you XO

  • JT
    Posted March 1, 2017 5:52 pm 0Likes

    Your post is an insult to anyone who was ever abused as a child.

    First and foremost, to assume that children make decisions to be abused before birth is absurd. You offer ZERO evidence of this, and when considering things like infant mortality or disease doesn’t make logical sense (Why would someone be born and choose to die so early in life?) And is also typical blaming-the-victim crap seen in the “Law” of Attraction. BTW, do you remember choosing to be abused? I certainly don’t remember doing so.

    So some people rise up from the abuse they got as a child? That’s nice. What about the many who DON’T? What about the many people who even as adults are STILL haunted by abuse they got as kids? I know quite a few, by the way. And what about those who die from abuse or neglect? Some deal they picked, huh? Get a clue. Not every abuse story has a happy ending.

    “So, I don’t have all of the answers regarding how the Law of Attraction explains child abuse, but my gut tells me that our little people who are suffering right now are tough little soldiers, who may have signed up for a war in order to have the chance to prove to themselves that they are capable of creating great things.”

    So basically, in a post that tries to explain how kids attract abuse (Which they don’t) your conclusion is “Well, I don’t really know, but kids are tough and they chose this so whatever.” What a waste of Internet space.

    I’m with the Anon. You should be ashamed. Take this post down.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted March 1, 2017 6:17 pm 0Likes

    I realize this touches on a nerve JT, and to be honest, I expected it would for some people.

    As someone who was also abused as a child, this is the perspective I now hold on this situation, and I strive to be authentic in expressing my perspective, even when it isn’t universally appreciated (as nothing ever is anyway). My purpose in writing it is to inspire others who suffered in ways like I did to tap into an inner knowing that they do not have to be victims anymore. Not everyone will get the message, but if even one person does it was worth writing.

    You may be angry at me, and I understand why, but I do wish you the very best regardless. I know the journey of abuse is not an easy path, but I hope this path ends up taking you somewhere that infinitely makes up for the pain you’ve carried with you thus far.

  • Anonymous
    Posted March 9, 2017 8:35 pm 0Likes

    You’re nuts 🙂

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted March 10, 2017 10:09 am 0Likes

    I think many people would agree with that statement Anonymous 😉

  • Derek
    Posted March 18, 2017 11:21 pm 0Likes
  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted March 19, 2017 12:13 pm 0Likes

    Thanks for sharing Derek, quite interesting!

  • Gharrett
    Posted August 10, 2017 2:41 am 0Likes

    Thank you for writing this it is a confirmation of things I’ve already come to know recently but really needed to hear again. You are absolutely correct in all that you have said about this topic. Im surprised by your knowledge of of our pre-mortal choice. Are you religious?

  • Gharrett
    Posted August 10, 2017 2:45 am 0Likes

    Because from what I can see the law of attraction is the exact same thing as faith in Jesus Christ.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted August 10, 2017 11:34 am 0Likes

    Hi Gharret, while I don’t identify as “religious” I do relate as “spiritual” and I feel these are ultimately just semantics. I’d say from my perspective I feel religion is a way of saying the same thing with different words <3

    Thanks for your feedback, and glad you enjoyed the article!

  • Anonymous
    Posted August 29, 2017 9:30 pm 0Likes

    No way did I choose what I’ve endured from infancy to still occuring abuses. For anyone to tell me I made choices prebirth to live my life with my abusive family is either not familiar with my suffering or okay with owning what their abusers did to them to heal the land. I never will be okay with it and no, I’m not grateful for those experiences. I was hopeful with this article because I do practice the law of attraction but yet again, someone is telling me it was my choice to live a life with such abuses and torture with a slew of abusers, rapists, molesters, bullies and enablers, all silent supporters of my abusers and bullies in immediate and distant relations.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted August 30, 2017 10:08 am 0Likes

    You most certainly are deserving of better treatment, that is for certain Anonymous <3

  • Michael Singh
    Posted September 8, 2017 11:24 pm 0Likes

    hi! first off great article, im a young adult male and i see the other commentors and i laugh and them telling you to be ashamed, these snowflakes get offended so quickily and they probably have strict abrahamic relgious views so what you say triggers them

    thank you for being real and just telling it like it is! i come from a sikh indian family so i can tell you for sure that ur past life theory is correct, thats why we develop certain traits.. its like survival of the fittest in a way , meaning some will choose a hard childhood a view wont make it but the tough and mentally strong will make it through like you and you share this help with others on the internet! great article! im going through a big life challenge right now , i do come from a very rich privledged cultured immigrant family living in the US but it comes to a point to not be happy but follow my what my parents want me to do vs me doing what i want to do and being the most happy! thanks again

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted September 9, 2017 10:26 am 0Likes

    Thanks for your feedback Michael, and for sharing the sikh perspective-much appreciated!

  • Polka Dot
    Posted October 13, 2017 1:04 pm 0Likes

    Hi,

    Interesting article. I’m a firm believer in the law of attraction, still a beginner, though, but it really works!

    I had a difficult childhood, and I used to spend a lot of time thinking if I attracted (consciously or unconsciously) my toxic parents. I was adopted and spend a few months in an orphanage before my parents adopted me and I think there was a lot of fear and anxiety in and around me at that time. According to what my adoptive mother told me, when she met me, I was an extremely fearful baby who cried a lot (it’s quite common among babies who have been separated from their birth mother). I do think babies have feelings, and emit very strong positive or negative vibrations, and I think all those feelings of despair, lack of love and unworthiness during my first months in the orphanage may have unconsciously attracted vibrationally matching adoptive parents. Or maybe my biological mother transmitted me those painful feelings when she was pregnant. Or maybe, like you said, those painful feelings come from a previous life.

    But now that I’m older, healed my childhood wounds and no longer resent my parents, I can say the whole experience made me incredibly strong. It made me realize I can create the life I want and that the Universe really does answer back to your vibrational state. So I focus on the things I want, feeling good, and trusting the Universe 🙂

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted October 14, 2017 8:09 am 0Likes

    Polka Dot, thank you for sharing your story-and so glad to hear how you’ve shot through the barriers of your early life situation. Yes, you are right about children who are separated from their birth mothers, there have been studies done on young children in orphanages that are just heartbreaking. Sending love and best wishes for your continued growth and strength <3

  • Pam
    Posted December 3, 2017 4:33 pm 0Likes

    I endured physical abuse as a child. As a mother now i am so careful to never repeat that cycle with my little girl. I strive for balanced and loving discipline. Ill admit that it is incredibly hard to accept this concept of prebirth decision making… but we truly dont know because we havent reached that state of conciousness (some of us anyway) i can only accept that what happened to me happened and now i must move forward and the best thing i can do is learn from it. My “learning from it” is displayed in how I parent. I dont allow anyone to exert violence on my baby including myself. I strive to give her a safe loving environment where she is encouraged to explore her world and be expressive about her emotions and findings. Its a complete turn around from the way i was raised, constantly violently abused and emotionally repressed. And while they are sad memories and wish i hadnt have to experience them i am glad that i know the suffering and recognize it enough to keep my child away from it. If this take, of believing in pre birth decisions, has helped you or anyone else heal, i am all for it. Because healing is healing period. To me this isnt victim blaming… because no one is condoning the abuse. No one is saying you deserved this terrible abuse and no one is making excuses for the abuser. I am saddened that a lot of people here have said this article is bad or that its author should be ashamed because they are invalidating this persons personal experience of abuse and personal experience of healing and recovering. Im mostly happy and relieved that people who’ve been abused are able to find love within themselves. Thank you for writting this from your personal perspective.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 4, 2017 7:58 pm 0Likes

    Thanks for your heartfelt comment Pam, it is much appreciated! <3

  • Over it
    Posted April 12, 2018 11:59 am 0Likes

    What I get annoyed about w people who say victims attract their abusers is bc…. FREE WILL. Basically you people who think this are NOT taking in account of the abusers actions. No victim can control anyone’s free will. I follow law of attraction, but I get immensely annoyed by articles and thoughts processes like this. This world if FULL of predators. While yes, I believe in reincarnation and coming here to voluntarily learn, one NEVER energetically asks to be abused. The abusers make that choice. The abusers go LOOKING for victims to attract. Don’t you see this?? I’m just so tired of people like you have no understanding of others free will. I REFUSE to condone the abusive actions of others and right it off as “the victim attracted it”. That’s such BS. The abuser wants to abuse….and they find easy targets. So it’s actually the abuser who is operating more in law of attraction. Not the victim. Maybe if I go up and smack you in the face for no reason I can just say… Well you attracted it!! I hope you see how absurd you sound. You need to understand you universal laws better. The law of causation perhaps. I’m 100% sure you have no experience with counseling victims and I hope you never do.

  • Over it
    Posted April 12, 2018 12:41 pm 0Likes

    One more thing to the victims, to keep saying in your head you attracted it can absolutely keep you in the victim state. And it absolutely makes no sense so that thought process is not a healing one. It makes the victim go into a panic of focusing on what’s wrong w them. And then it becomes a much lower thought process w little self esteem. So Yea since thought is a reference point of attraction, you most certainly can attract more abusers by taking 100% responsibility for being abused. Instead, Find healing. Find happiness. Focus on what you can do now. focus on self love. Learn better how sociopaths and psychopaths operate. The best defense is a good offense. And don’t listen to people like this blogger. Gosh… Ugh… I just can’t believe information like this. It’s a very very irresponsible.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted April 13, 2018 10:30 am 0Likes

    Hi Over it, I appreciate your comment but politely disagree. As a surviver of child abuse myself I speak from my personal perspective, and realize that this perspective is what helped me overcome the victim mentality that kept me trapped in hell long after my abuse ceased.

    Just because abuse is attracted doesn’t mean it’s deserved…just that it’s been attracted.

  • Unicorn
    Posted September 6, 2018 1:39 pm 0Likes

    I don’t want to come over all religious but as a Christian I just cant see how a loving God/Universe would actively encourage abuse just so people could learn from it. When I look at the life of Jesus he HEALED those who were suffering- he didn’t go round giving them diseases so they could learn from it! And as humans we condemn child abuse so why would we, in a other state of being, totally lose our minds and suddenly think its a good idea?

  • Unicorn
    Posted September 6, 2018 1:39 pm 0Likes

    I think the idea of karma and unfinished business makes more sense, which is why I like Christianity/Law of attraction so much because I believe we can be freed from all that karmic debt. As Gharrat says, and Ive heard it said somewhere else that doing positive LOA helps us connect with the Divine so we can be freed from all those horrible ‘lessons’ weve inflicted on ourselves.
    I mean, those Turpin kids, try telling them that life is more wonderful and vibrant because they’ve been chained up and starved. Makes no logical sense in any universe to me.

  • Bekah
    Posted September 6, 2018 1:53 pm 0Likes

    Articles like this do make me incredibly angry because first they say things like ‘They know it will cause extreme expansion not only for them, but for all that is.’ But newsflash-if someone is in a negative situation, theyre gonna be sending out bad vibes, which will hurt others. Now as a sane human being I thought that it was wrong to hurt others. But according to this thinking, we are actually doing someone a favour if we are cruel to them because we will be helping them to ‘grow.’ But then, Karma will come along and punish us for being so cruel.

  • Bekah
    Posted September 6, 2018 1:55 pm 0Likes

    So I don’t think is so much a case of ‘bad is good’-I would never have chosen something bad that’s happened to me, but I will admit that I am able to be happier once I come out of it so it has helped me to catapault further into the light. But I think its more using something bad to make something good-because that’s the kind of God/Universe I believe in-someone who can turn ANYTHING into something good-like the Doctor, even the darkest night cant defeat them. But that doesn’t mean that God INTENDED or willed for the bad to happen. I mean, why not just get higher into the light in a much nicer way?

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted September 7, 2018 10:37 am 0Likes

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts Bekah <3

  • Ellie
    Posted September 12, 2018 12:43 pm 0Likes

    No, I don’t think anyone choose to be raped daily and violently at the age of 2. Or to be stomped to death- to death- at the age of 4. Period.

  • Juan
    Posted October 14, 2018 7:04 am 0Likes

    Thank you for being you.
    Much love!

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted October 14, 2018 10:55 am 0Likes

    Thank you Juan 🙂

  • Erick
    Posted January 3, 2019 12:30 am 0Likes

    As for attracting “pre-life” circumstances, my take is that during conception, the thought of a child is created and birthed into existence. As a forming baby in a mother’s belly, we have no control over our thoughts therefore we are open an vulnerable into accepting the vibration energies / thoughts of the outside world. For example, a mother who is pregnant and in a toxic relationship will fear for her child’s safety and well being, therefore transferring that negative energy into her unborn child, leading them into child abuse or what-have-you. Outside circumstances are being reflected into the child’s subconscious mind who is unaware of the life/family they were born into, so the thought processes to deflect that negative vibration cannot be deflected. We as babies are absorbing negative vibrations into our subconscious mind because we haven’t developed our conscious mind to be able to defect those vibrations, which in turn creates our paradigm.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted January 3, 2019 4:44 pm 0Likes

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts Erick

  • Anonymous
    Posted February 12, 2019 7:56 am 0Likes

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/constructive-wallowing/201409/negative-emotions-dont-obey-the-law-attraction

    To those who suffered or suffer … Compassion and love are always the way towards healing and having those feelings of vulnerabilty, love and compassion for yourself and others, differentiates you from a sociopath or a psychopath….

  • Anonymous
    Posted October 11, 2020 6:33 pm 0Likes

    I’m curious what course of action you would take if you were, god forbid, overpowered physically now or a child. Would you thank the person who committed the violation as they are allowing for your continued expansion and/or would you go to the police and press charges? I’m struggling how to come in alignment with the loa with respect to what we value as a society in terms of what I believe is the basic human right to be free from being violated.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted October 12, 2020 12:29 pm 0Likes

    Anonymous, I wrote this from the perspective of being a child abuse survivor myself

  • Sharon S
    Posted November 21, 2020 12:50 pm 0Likes

    Wow. Just wow.

    This is the one main reason why I don’t buy into the law of attraction as promulgated.

    There are tons of really toxic people who sexually assault innocent children, even helpless infants. They put toxicity into the world and onto others by their actions.

    The actions of these toxic individuals have nothing to do with those little one’s vibrations and to suggest otherwise provides toxic people with more justifications to evade responsibility, something many of them have problems with already.

    Yes, folks need to be more positive and you get what you look for many times, but fixing damage and wounds caused by others takes more work than positive thinking.

  • A
    Posted December 10, 2020 5:41 am 0Likes

    Hi, Andrea. I’ve been severely abused since I was a child and I agree with your perspective. I do think this was something I chose to experience pre-birth. When I honestly, objectively evaluate my life, I see that there’s no way I could be the person I am now without the pain I went through. Though the journey was very hard, I wouldn’t change who I am now. Thank you for having the courage to make this post.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 10, 2020 11:00 am 0Likes

    Thanks A, I appreciate your comment! Glad to hear someone else who has experience this kind of abuse firsthand understands this perspective as well. XOXO

  • Carol McKenzie
    Posted January 3, 2021 6:27 pm 0Likes

    While this thought process may have made your abuse easier for you to live with, it’s a dangerous precident to put out into the larger world. It’s victim-blaming in the highest form and in this case, you’re essentially blaming children for the abuse they suffer. Blaming a child for a “pre-birth” agreement is ludicrous to the utmost.

    I listen to and transcribe child sex abuse forensic interviews. The children in those audios are scared and confused. They’re not looking for a higher meaning in the events that have traumatized them. Many of them go on to continue to have on-going trauma throughout their lives. Many think no one would believe them. I’m pretty sure if someone told them or their parents this was a pre-birth agreement and it’s for their own good, that child would be scarred even more deeply.

  • Maralyn Smith
    Posted April 30, 2021 11:48 pm 0Likes

    Wow, how dangerous!!!! There is not way you can say EVERYBODY benefits from child abuse, rape, domestic violence or whatever it may be. Many children and adults NEVER recover and many in fact kill themselves. Is this all part of LOA? I agree with some of the precepts of LOA but when you have to make excuses like it was in your vortex pre-birth it’s akin to believing in martians. Why not just say you don’t have answers for everything. Respect would be greater in that instance.

    Totally agree with Carol above. I have also worked with children and adults, many of the adults in their 70s and 80s whose lives have been ruined by abuse. So due to their pre-birth attraction they drew this to themselves?

  • Anonymous
    Posted June 15, 2021 1:40 am 0Likes

    This article is absolute nonsense. You need therapy. Actual therapy. Not this bullshit law of attraction rubbish that blames innocent and blameless children for the miserable existences brought on not by themselves, NEVER BY THEMSELVES, but the evil adults who are RESPONSIBLE for the abuse. You need help but seeing as you’re too blind to see that, do the world a favour and stay away from vulnerable people who might believe this crock and blame themselves for horrendous situations they find themselves in.

  • Leslie M
    Posted September 16, 2021 2:27 am 0Likes

    I respect all the comments. This is a difficult topic. In a nutshell, we are here to learn. Obviously, God allows abuse to happen. Therefore, there must be a purpose in that. Most people don’t understand what their purpose even is. Your purpose is to bring into alignment the subconscious mind with the superconscious or God mind within us, in order to manifest perfect self-expression in the consciousness–or the world we live and interact in. I don’t believe children choose to be abused. But again, there are things to be learned from it. You might need to learn forgiveness toward your abuser. You might need to learn to love yourself perfectly and know you are not to blame; you might need to learn to help others by becoming a counselor to help the abused.

  • Leslie M
    Posted September 16, 2021 2:31 am 0Likes

    Continued….the subconscious mind drives our actions. So if you believe you are bad or a victim or unworthy of love, your actions will reflect that belief. If you make bad choices, you keep spinning your wheels in the mud and muck of karma. You are miserable and you don’t understand why. That is why you must learn to be aware of all your thoughts and emotions in order to change your course. Again, we are here to learn. I believe it takes many lifetimes to reach the point of liberation.

  • Leslie M
    Posted September 16, 2021 8:15 am 0Likes

    I had more thoughts about this. One of the hardest things to accept is that God lets these things happen. We are talking about abuse here but what about all the people who have endured family members being murdered? Kidnapped? Sold into sex slavery, etc? Horrible things happen to people in this world. And God allows it. Suffering is a tool to bring us all into alignment with the divine. All things are in perfect order. Jesus said something along the lines, ” Father, I would that you would remove this bitter cup; nevertheless, Thy Will be done!” Surrendering to the divine will is not easy. And that’s why I believe in reincarnation and multiple lifetimes to come to the divine understanding and complete surrender. The closer we get to that the less suffering there will be.

  • Ingrid
    Posted April 5, 2022 8:02 am 0Likes

    I think once we are healed or healing we don’t struggle so much with the idea that we may have chosen the life we are leading— and I think the idea of contrast makes it easier to accept for me.

    I struggle more with seeing grinding poverty and horrific things in the world and thinking that they ‘chose’ it, though. Particularly children.

    However pain is generative, and it is hard for me to think of someone who grew up in ideal circumstances transforming much spiritually. What would fuel the fire?

  • FL
    Posted May 9, 2022 9:03 pm 0Likes

    I find this reckless and heartless!

    I read an article about an infant who was left in a nursery. The government and agency had the means to treat this poor baby’s condition, which was hydrocephaly, but instead the little one lie helpless, not even a week old, dying an agonizing, slow death because the pressure built up in the skull and exploded. The spinal fluid oozed out. When you get to wherever you are going after you’re time is up, I want to to find the spirit of that sweet little baby, walk up to them and say: “But you agreed to go through this.” Say it to the little one’s face!

    This kind of toxic positivity culture is what drives people to suicide.

  • Anonymous
    Posted February 13, 2023 1:00 am 0Likes

    Hi Andrea,

    I have followed you on and off on Youtube and was quite surprised to see your name after searching this article online.

    Anyone who has seen you online would know what a positive burst and ray of sunshine. It’s unfathomable that you went through something similar.

    I have an ambivalent take on this unlike the polarized yes/no responses here.

    Let’s take a ‘simpler’ example of covert narcissistic abuse than physical or sexual.

    You will see a SPATE if not trend of NPD abuse all of a sudden as if it appeared out of nowhere because of online. I mean f**** even 15 years ago people wouldn’t be bickering about it. And guess what happens when you spend time in a group of NPD ‘survivors’. Yup. They are full of vitriol, spite, venom, hate, pettiness, meanness and pure evil.

    No.

    1/3

  • Anonymous
    Posted February 13, 2023 1:01 am 0Likes

    Andrea,

    I have followed you on and off on Youtube and was quite surprised to see your name after searching this article online.

    Anyone who has seen you online would know what a positive burst and ray of sunshine. It’s unfathomable that you went through something similar.

    I have an ambivalent take on this unlike the polarized yes/no responses here.

    Let’s take a ‘simpler’ example of covert narcissistic abuse than physical or sexual.

    You will see a SPATE if not trend of NPD abuse all of a sudden as if it appeared out of nowhere because of online. I mean f**** even 15 years ago people wouldn’t be bickering about it. And guess what happens when you spend time in a group of NPD ‘survivors’. Yup. They are full of vitriol, spite, venom, hate, pettiness, meanness and pure evil.

    No.

    1/3

  • Anonymous
    Posted February 13, 2023 1:07 am 0Likes

    Not love and light but pure demons who wish death upon their parents for emotional abuse.

    Now on one hand I DO think at one level LOA can be spiritual bypassing and coping mechanism. However when you do psychedelics you realize ALL is energy.

    2/3

  • Anonymous
    Posted February 13, 2023 1:10 am 0Likes

    As Kybalion said: As within so without.

    Point being we are humans. Sure we may be souls but at the end of the day we ALL have to sh^^ and we have concept of shame be it original sin or what not.

    It doesn’t matter if you are Buddha and Ramana Maharishi or Dalai Lama we ALL have to sh””. Name a single person godly or not who doesn’t have to sh** no matter how mindblowingly ‘enlightened’ they are.

    We are ALL tainted from birth.

    I don’t think you even have to go as far back as past life as you have zero evidence for your theory.

    However even as a 5 month old… imagine a baby gets shouted at from her mother. Now this is a great deviation from her state of purity at dharmakaya.

    So the moment the baby encounters her first negative experience – and mind you we ALL do- although she cannot articulate her thoughts she is thrown off Eden. There are karmic repercussions. She doesn’t know forgiveness and empathy INSTEAD subconsciously she harbors grudge and resentment.

    3/5

  • Anonymous
    Posted February 13, 2023 1:10 am 0Likes

    As Kybalion said: As within so without.

    Point being we are humans. Sure we may be souls but at the end of the day we ALL have to sh^^ and we have concept of shame be it original sin or what not.

    It doesn’t matter if you are Buddha and Ramana Maharishi or Dalai Lama we ALL have to sh””. Name a single person godly or not who doesn’t have to sh** no matter how mindblowingly ‘enlightened’ they are.

    We are ALL tainted from birth.

    I don’t think you even have to go as far back as past life as you have zero evidence for your theory.

    However even as a 5 month old… imagine a baby gets shouted at from her mother. Now this is a great deviation from her state of purity at dharmakaya.

    So the moment the baby encounters her first negative experience – and mind you we ALL do- although she cannot articulate her thoughts she is thrown off Eden. There are karmic repercussions. She doesn’t know forgiveness and empathy INSTEAD subconsciously she harbors grudge and resentment.

    3/5

  • Anonymous
    Posted February 13, 2023 1:11 am 0Likes

    Some might even want their parents dead as they begin maturing. Now obviously Universe won’t just cater to their whim willy-nilly and ‘kill off’ their parents.

    BUT…the Universe might ‘arrange’ or ‘conspire’ events AGAIN and AGAIN throughout eternity unless one learns the ‘lesson’ that You are God. You are anything but not GOD.

    Then ultimately they get a sighting of their kensho or true nature.
    4/5

  • Anonymous
    Posted February 13, 2023 1:12 am 0Likes

    Logically you have to.

    The problem is we cannot stay in that nondual enlightened state all the time. We inevitably have to return to ‘humanness’.

    And hence we are back to this earthly paradigm of bondage.

    I agree with you. It is entirely possible if I was God I would choose a disgusting scenario to challenge myself as soul contract.

    Note everyone. I don’t enable abuse nor condone it. I am merely giving a justification as to why situations unfold and manifest the way they do.

    If life was perfect and we were in heaven, then life would be perfect and we would be in heaven. 5/5

  • wtf
    Posted September 2, 2023 12:02 am 0Likes

    “in no way do I condone child abuse” but you are literally condoning, or at least providing a convenient excuse to ignore child abuse in this article. Believing that a child could choose a difficult path, manifest death in the womb (or before being born) and then end up with parents who kill them? Saying they somehow “chose that” before being born?

    People don’t hold this belief because they’re “spiritual” or “positive”. It comes from a deeply NEGATIVE and hopeless place. I understand because I have been there.

    But the world is often terrible. It is what it is. We don’t need to make another excuse for it. Instead of creating infinitely more convoluted beliefs to justify away the horrors of the world, maybe we could just openly acknowledge and speak about the horrors of the world, without providing cover. Why don’t we?

  • wtf
    Posted September 2, 2023 12:08 am 0Likes

    Children NEED at least one person in their lives to say “you didn’t deserve it”, “you weren’t asking for it”, “it’s not your fault”. I never had that person and maybe you didn’t either, so I feel for us both.

    Perhaps you believe the world is too f*cked up to change. Maybe this belief is economically beneficial. Maybe it protects us from looking at people around us clearly, from seeing things we don’t want to see. We secretly experience the world as a very dark place, and we have to bury the part of us that demands actual justice, in order to be accepted.

    Again, I understand because I have been there. But saying that children have “chosen” or manifested their own abuse opens doors for wide acceptance of things that should be eradicated from society.
    These beliefs serve to further and embolden a version of the world that I do not want to live in, and I suspect you don’t want to live in it either.

  • wtf
    Posted September 2, 2023 12:18 am 0Likes

    I choose to be positive by believing the world can change, not by believing it can’t. These “new” age spiritual beliefs aren’t new or countercultural at all, but something incredibly dark and familiar. Providing spiritual cover for people who do inhumane things TO CHILDREN isn’t positivity OR spirituality. It’s soul death. It also reminds me a lot of Christianity, just saying.

    Believing that a baby has “chosen” death, or a life of poverty, rape, or abuse before being born is too much. That’s dark. And you know it. So question it.

    I thank you for your article, because it allowed me to get very clear about all this.

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