14 Things to Stop Saying Now If You Want to Find Love

If you want to find love, it can be hard when you look around and notice that seemingly everyone else is paired up except for you.  It can make you feel as if there is something wrong with you, or that the universe is totally against you.  It can be very disheartening, trust me-I get it!

However, the good thing here to understand is that the only reason we ever find ourselves alone is because we expect to be alone!  Our world is shaped entirely by our expectations and beliefs.  Fortunately, if a person can change his or her expectations about relationships, the Law of Attraction will bring him or her a compatible mate to love and cherish.

So, how do you change your expectation if you find yourself alone? 

Well, one of the most effective things that you can do is change the way you speak about love and relationships.  Often, when we feel jaded about love, this comes across in our speech.  Then, once we start talking about our insecurities and disappointments, we amplify them with the Law of Attraction.

So, if you want to find love, here are a few things I suggest you stop saying (if you’ve been saying them at all).  Each of the phrases below has the power to repel the relationship you are seeking, as they each reinforce limiting beliefs about love.

  1. “Nobody loves me.”
  2. “I’m going to die alone.”
  3. “I’m going to be an old maid/bachelor.”
  4. “There are no good men/women out there.”
  5. “I’m too old to find love.”
  6. “I’m not attractive enough, smart enough, funny enough, etc.”
  7. “I don’t make enough money to support a spouse/family.”
  8. “Good men/women are hard to find.”
  9. “I get nervous talking to men/women.”
  10. “They only want me for my money.”
  11. “They only want one thing.”
  12. “You can’t trust men/women.”
  13. “Relationships are hard.”
  14. “What if I never get married/find ‘the one?’”

It’s always wise to be selective about our word choices, especially in regards to the things we really, really want.  If you want to find love,  please take care to make sure your language isn’t holding you back.

If you are wanting to attract love into your life, feel free to contact me and let me know what I can do to help! I am a Law of Attraction coach and I love helping people discover the easy (and fun!) vibe of love manifestation. It’s one of my favorite subjects to discuss and work on.

Thanks for reading,


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  • Katy
    Posted December 3, 2015 9:47 am 0Likes

    Hi andrea, so what kind of words do you suggest that I could be using to make the LOA work in favour for me of finding love?

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 3, 2015 10:44 am 0Likes

    Hi Katy! Here are a few affirmations I’ve put together on love and relationships. Try them out and let me know what you think! https://raiseyourvibrationtoday.com/2015/11/16/relationship-mantras-attract-love/

    Have a great day,

    Andrea <3

  • Katy
    Posted December 4, 2015 8:00 pm 0Likes

    Awesome! Thank you Andrea, you have a great day ahead too!♡

  • Debra
    Posted December 5, 2016 3:05 pm 0Likes

    Thank you for the player’s manual, hon. Seriously, now I know what to keep doing to keep people away. I truly appreciate it.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 5, 2016 7:04 pm 0Likes

    Thanks Debra! XO

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