An Easy & Magical Trick to Use on the Person You “Like” (or Love)
Love Attraction Video Series (Part 2 of 3)
Thanks for joining me for the second video in our series of love attraction! If you haven’t seen the first video, please watch it first by heading over to this link here.
This video series is all about learning how to use the Law of Attraction to attract the ideal relationship…be it with someone specific you’ve had your eye on, or with someone new who has the right characteristics!
In the last video, we discussed how limiting beliefs often hinder success in attraction, or lead us to become magnets for the “wrong” people or relationships. We also worked together to uncover some of your personal limiting beliefs, and we discussed how to transform these beliefs into empowering ones to help you draw in the relationship you’ve really been wanting.
In this video, we are going to work on enhancing your confidence and helping you believe you can actually attract the love you want with the Law of Attraction! After all, staying positive is critical for success.
To do this, I am going to share with you a super easy, and super effective, trick you can use to get a positive reaction out of a potential love interest! Instead of being ignored, brushed off or even treated rudely by the the person you have your eye on, this trick ensures your love interest sends you positive communication signals, like smiles, laughter, winks or friendly conversation.
Getting a positive response from someone you find attractive is a huge psychological boost and will help you know for certain that you do indeed create your own reality! There’s nothing quite as empowering as knowing for certain that your focus was responsible for making positive change.
This trick will help you stay optimistic about the process, which is a tremendous help-especially if you’ve ever felt discouraged about your ability to find love before.
I’d love to hear what you think about this topic and this video! Comment below and share your thoughts and questions. I read all video comments and do my best to respond to each one.
Click here to see the third video in this series.
XO, Andrea
PS. If you are interested in learning more about love attraction, I also have a love attraction video e-course you are welcome to check out. Click this link to learn more about my love attraction course.
61 Comments
kB
I’m really really excited to try this out. I may have to leave the house now just so I can run into a stranger! haha
Kassidi
I found you a month ago and thanks to your advice I’ve been coping really well with what started out as a nasty breakup. I’ve been practicing the steps in your e book and they have been working. You are awesome keep up the great work and thanks for everything you do.
PS You are beautiful
1111Angel
Do you think this would work on someone like an ex boyfriend who was mad at you? I really want my ex to forgive me
Anonymous
I’m trying this out today thanks. Could use some extra confidence
Andrea Schulman
let me know how it works out for you Anonymous! 🙂
David S.
This is so encouraging. I’m ready!
Andrea Schulman
Angel- yes it can work on an ex who is mad at you…it just takes some extra practice. Work on this skill until you are very comfortable with it before trying it out on your ex. Also, it might be a good idea to work out limiting beliefs you have about the ex too for a bit. Use the exercise from video one to answer the question: “Why is my ex mean to me?” to uncover the beliefs, and then use some of those suggestions to transform them.
This exercise can absolutely work for you, just remember that the focus during the interaction is entirely on how you can shine a positive light on him. If it’s a very hostile relationship it might be challenging at first to avoid the negative thoughts if you are new to this skill or are carrying a bunch of limiting beliefs about him.
Start with strangers and see how it goes. You should be able to find it works with just a little practice and that should give you the confidence to fine tune the skill to use in any social interaction 🙂
Andrea Schulman
Thank you Kassidi! I appreciate the feedback and the compliment 🙂
Andrea Schulman
Let me know how it goes David!
David S.
Ok, I had to hop back on. I just ran out to the store and tried it on the clerk. WOW! This trick is amazing!!
Andrea Schulman
Fun stuff, huh David? 🙂
Anonymous
Any more tips to stay positive?
Ishmael
Thank you Andrea
Eileen
I’ve tried visualizing my perfect husband every day, but it isn’t working. What am I doing wrong?
Carolina
This works! It really is magic. I. AM. AMAZED.
Anonymous
Thank you for sharing this insightful video with us
DD
Thank u
Asmeralda
I’m loving all of these videos Andrea!
Andrea Schulman
Hi Eileen!
Common problem-and I know what the issue probably is…usually when we visualize before we’ve cleared up limiting beliefs, when we visualize we only amplify the limiting beliefs that are keeping what we want away. I would check out video one in this series and put aside the visualization until after you were feeling less attached to this dream.
In fact, as a general rule, I usually recommend avoiding visualization on a scheduled basis, because when we visualize repeatedly we are largely sending a message that says “I don’t think I can have this thing I want,” which actually keeps us away from what we want. It’s a bit of a paradox, isn’t it?
Gary
I loved your explanation. Nice and simple 🙂 have yet to try it but it makes so much more sense then kind of lingering for a connection in social situations.
R
Hi Andrea,
Hope you’re doing well. I got to know about “Law of Attaction” just about a couple of days and have been seeing varoius articles and videos to understand it and practice it. While to be honest i was in a dilemma whether we can use this and if this is right? I thought upon again and said to myself that it’s just that we are concentrating on positive thoughts and nothing else so this should be fine and continued my search and that’s how I ended up on your site.
I’ve watched the 2 parts that you’ve posted and must say it is really good(but i just have to put it to practice). The reason i came in search of this is I really really like a guy and would want him to be my life partner. We’re friends right now, there are hitches like age, social issues, culture, language, parental views that is posing a problem. Would you please help me with it? I would want him and only him in my life.
Thanks
R
Andrea Schulman
Hi R-Thanks for commenting. You found my site at the perfect time to ask this question! Tomorrow morning I’ll be sending out a video on attracting specific people (like a crush) to my love attraction newsletter list. If you aren’t already signed up, here’s the link to get the email with the notification of the video.
XO, Andrea
Andrea Schulman
Thanks Gary-I’m glad you liked the video:) Thanks for your feedback!
Merja
Hi Andrea!
I have always loved your down-to-earth advice on Law of Attraction. And though not all you say is resonating with me, most of it is. Great advice/secret you shared. I have done this both way (positive and negative) and not known doing it! Thank you for pointing this out to me.
Love, Merja
Andrea Schulman
Hi Merja- as always, thanks for following my posts (and for all of the fun Instagram posts as well!) XO, Andrea
Paloma
Hi Andrea! Thank you, again for sahring your tips on LOA! I was wondering how exactly you set your intention. Do I have to write it down or simply think of it? Do I have to put or think all the characteristis that I want to have on a relationship? I would appreciate your answer! Thank you!!
Andrea Schulman
Hi Paloma:)
My preference is to write my intentions…though this certainly isn’t required. The trick is to clear out the negative feelings prior to setting intentions to ensure you are asking for what will really make you happy. I discuss more of this in the third video in the series 🙂
You don’t have to identify every characteristic of the person, I believe it’s more effective to ask for the feelings you want out of the relationship, as these are easier to reach for (happiness, attraction, compatibility, etc.).
XO, Andrea
NV
Hi Andrea,
If i want to shine my light to make this certain person feel better, can i do that telepathically? For eg. The person I want to shine my light on is not infront of me but working in different office. Would this technique work?
Gold
Hi Andrea,
First of all, thank you and love you so much for these wonderful ideas of clearing the negative beliefs that in turn will turn us to be a better person. Clearing the negative beliefs will help us to love our-self exactly the way we are. Thank so much for making us loving our-selves.
Regarding setting up an intention on the person or shine my positive energy on a person, do I need to have the person be physically with me? I mean, do I need to see the person right in front of my eyes? Why am I asking this is, few days back I met someone through a common friend whom I found really attractive, and it seems to be the same from his side also. I just felt that he liked me too. Now I don’t know about the person so much that I can say, I want to be in a relationship with him or not but I really want to be friends with this person, but I don’t know when we will meet or if we will meet ever. Can I apply the intentions techniques on him that you have shared in your second video?
Andrea Schulman
Hi NV:)
In my experience this does work. Excellent question! Sending positive thoughts to people can be a very effective practice.
XO, Andrea
PS, Just keep in mind that how we feel in the moment is what dictates how people react to us, so for the very best results try to practice it when you are face to face with this person as well.
Andrea Schulman
Hi Gold-thank you for your kind words and also for this interesting question!
You can certainly try it out, however I can’t guarantee that this practice will bring this person back into your life as it’s a technique to elicit a positive reaction, but not necessarily an encounter. Often, when we think about people they gravitate back into our world (they call, text or show up in some capacity), however this is only effective if we aren’t projecting any resistance that the person will show up.
Because this is a new situation, you probably haven’t ramped up too much resistance about whether or not you will see this person again, so certainly try it out and see. Just be advised that if thinking about this person makes you feel negative emotion in any way it isn’t helping the cause.
What makes this technique effective is the absence of concern about the self and what we are going to get out of the situation. So I’d say it’s definitely worth a shot, just be easy about it and place your focus solely on trying to uplift this other person.
XO, Andrea
PS, It is good news for you that you are finding yourself highly attracted to people and receiving confirmation that they do to. I had a similar situation when I met my husband, we were attracted to each other but when we parted the first time I didn’t know if I’d ever see him again:)
Gold
Dear Andrea,
I would definitely keep in mind the given suggestions. I will try not to get cling with the outcome. And anyway, I want to know the person first before thinking further. For that meeting is needed, anyway I sort of believe that if he has to be with me, universe will show bring him to me. Is my this thinking right?
Thanks so much for sharing your beautiful inspiring story. God bless your love.
I had a different experience yesterday, I went to a shopping mall yesterday and there I wanted to apply the theory on someone. I was really excited about it. When I was inside a shop and wanted to try this, but to my surprise I felt lethargic about it, my enthusiasm just vanished away.
Multiple thoughts came to me,
1. I can try this out later, 2. I am not yet ready 3. What is the point doing this 4. I was never successful practicing these methods, 5. Probably these are all hoax, it really doesn’t work etc etc … and i did the required shopping and came back home. Do you see any logic why did i feel that way? Are these limited thinking? It was so upsetting for me, as I was supercharged about applying this on someone and see the result. Did I miss anything?
Andrea Schulman
Hi Gold:)
My guess is there may be some underlying fear there about whether or not you can make this stuff work for you, and that’s ok and fairly normal!
The beauty of this is it is a very low-intensity practice that you can try at any time. If it feels a little shaky to try it out right now, no worries, just wait until you feel inspired and give it a go when the time feels right. This works best when we are feeling happy and uplifted, so if you are feeling apprehensive at all, let yourself off the hook and wait for the right time.
Just remember, the purpose is just to make someone’s day, that’s all. I like to think of it as me doing a kind service to help someone out. This makes it feel more like a good deed, and less like something I “have” to get results from.
If you are looking for other ways to test the Law of Attraction, here are a few more that you could give a go to. See if you like them! https://raiseyourvibrationtoday.com/2015/01/05/two-easy-ways-to-test-the-law-of-attraction/
Xo, Andrea
NV
Hi Andrea,
I sent you an email on your contact us sheet. I would like to consult you regarding the limiting beliefs just like how you helped Denise (the story of your client) in your video
Andrea Schulman
Hi NV:)
Sorry for the delayed response…your email to me ended up in my spam folder which is why I didn’t see it initially. I’ll write you back in just a moment.
XO, Andrea
NV
Hi Andrea,
I keep on watching these videos, they are amazing and one question i have is, when i am focusing on this stranger sending him/her positive thoughts, do i have to be starring at this person while saying positive things in my mind or i can do my own business keeping this person in mind and sending positive thoughts? Does this make sense?
Andrea Schulman
Hi NV:)
When I practice this technique I try to look at the person no more than I usually would during an interaction. The less conspicuous you feel the easier it will be to focus on uplifting the other.
All that matters is the thoughts and the intention. You will want to practice this technique when you are in the presence of the other person for best results. This doesn’t mean that you need to speak to the person or look at them however.
XO, Andrea
Gold
Dear Andrea,
I guess you are right, I get tensed inside. Surprisingly I don’t know why, but yes I get to feel tense right before concentrating my energy on someone.
In recent past, I wanted to buy a particular type of ear ring and was vigorously looking for it. But couldn’t find it so stop searching. Later I completely forgot about the ring. Recently my Mom gifted me one pair of ear rings that is exactly as I was looking for, and it is even better that that, the one mom gifted is in Gold and Diamond, but I was looking for same design in artificial junk jewelry section. The same thing happened with a ladies parse also. Someone has gifted my Mom the same types of parse but she doesn’t use those types of funky stuff so she gave it to me. Again the quality was way better than I was expecting.
I was looking for a house, and one of my friend gave me the contact of an available house that is way better than what I was expecting. Do you think I should consider this as a result of LOA. Regarding the same I want to share something little personal, can I share that to you personally? If yes, can I please have your mail ID?
Andrea Schulman
Hi Gold-yes what you are explaining is very LOA based. When we stop worrying about the things we want, they come to us. Also, the universe can do much better than what we expect. I had wanted to get a gold phone case because mine had broken last week, and I wanted one that was sparkly for some reason (i like sparkles:) ).
Instead of “trying” to find it, I just forgot about it because I was busy with other things. Then, this past weekend I happened to walk into a novelty shop and they sold the most unique phone cases, and I found one that had water in the case and gold sparkles that move around when you pick up the phone. It’s better than what I could have imagined and less than I ordinarily pay for phone cases (only $19).
I guess my point is when we think about what we want but then let go, the universe can surprise us with better things than we wanted.
Feel free to shoot me a message through the contact form– those messages come straight to my email. I don’t post my email address on my website to avoid spammers, but if you message me you’ll get a response from my email address.
XO, Andrea
Gold
Thanks so much Andrea for the validation. It really means a lot.
Andrea Schulman
You’re welcome Gold. Thanks for the comments! 🙂
Steph
HI Andrea ,
You are doing wonderful job .Your article is really helpful .After watching your video series ,I started working on attracting my ex back . I got few questions in mind like how much time will this process take .. or shall i approach him first or wait for his move .?
Hopeful that you will be able to clear out these questions…
Thanks ,
Steph
Steph
HI Andrea ,
You are doing wonderful job .Your article is really helpful .After watching your video series ,I started working on attracting my ex back . I got few questions in mind like how much time will this process take .. or shall i approach him first or wait for his move .?
Hopeful that you will be able to clear out these questions.
Thanks ,
Steph
Andrea Schulman
Hi Steph!
To answer your question…my recommendation would be to work on the limiting beliefs (video 1) first before trying to attract your ex (or anyone else). Before the negative thought patterns are transformed we find that either we magnetize unfulfilling people OR we repel the kinds of relationships we want. Therefore, you will want to transform these beliefs first or you may find that if you attract your ex back, he is not capable of giving you the relationship you really want.
So the best order of operations is 1. clear limiting beliefs without trying to attract love, 2. set intention for love, 3. align with intention to attract love. Timing largely depends on our willingness to let go and align with empowering beliefs about love. Love attraction can be very quick for people who are willing to adjust their belief systems, but for those who do not it can take a long time. Once aligned with the right belief system attraction is very very quick and can be instantaneous. I hope this is helpful!
Of course, if you’d like more assistance, feel free to contact me and let me know how I may help.
XO, Andrea
Steph
Thanks Andrea! I wanted to ask one more question. How can we actually identify and remove our limiting beliefs ?
Nowadays I am having very positive feelings about my ex.I think about our happy time .should I consider this as resistance or something else ? I cant really get him out of my mind. I love thinking about him and about our past relationship.
Thanks ,
Steph
Andrea Schulman
Hi Steph:) Check out the exercise in the first video ( https://raiseyourvibrationtoday.com/2016/04/17/law-attraction-love-series-part-1-3/ ). It will help you identify the beliefs and will give you some understanding on how to eliminate them.
All the best,
Andrea
Steph
Yes Àndrea I have already watched the video ..thanks though.
Please help out on the second question I asked in my previous comment.
Thanks,
Stephanie
Andrea Schulman
My bad:)
Ok, well I would probably say that if you are trying to get back the ex, focusing too much on memories and thoughts of him may bot be your best move. This is because if there is something we don’t have and we think a bunch about it, we are probably frequently focused on lacking what we don’t have.
So while we may be able to think positively about the ex here or there, it’s likely that contradictory thoughts (like “why can’t I have him” or “when is he going to come back to me?”) will pop up at some point during this positive focus. It’s hard to hold a consistent positive expectation about something that we want that we don’t have.
It’s far more effective to redirect your focus to activities that bring out your inner joy. If thoughts about the ex that are positive thoughts come up, by all means go with them, but I wouldn’t try to make myself focus on the ex right now to keep me off of the subject of lack.
If you can find a way to be happy without the ex, the feeling of lack will dissipate entirely. Once the feeling of lack is no longer active, drawing in love becomes much, much quicker.
All the best,
Andrea
PLK
Thanks for shariing your videos Andrea! I´m wirtting to you because I can´t stop thinking about a summer love I had 6 years ago. After that, I saw him twice and I´m in touch with him every now and then. I really want to have a new relationship and I think your videos are really helpful. The thing is that whenever I try to follow your tips I continnue thinking about this guy. (I know I´m kinda obssessed with him because for the time we´ve spent I don´t even know him and I´m idealizing him, I know that but I can´t help it) Of course I will be so happy if I can attract him but he´s so far away from here that I don´t think this will be possible. It might sound sily but I think this doesn´t allow me to move on. What do you recommend me? I will be looking forward to your answer. THANK YOU, ANDREA!
PLK
Hello Andrea, thanks four your videos, I´ve been following your LOA tips and since then I been thinking of a platonic love of mine. I met him 6 years ago on hollidays, he was a summer love. I saw him twice after that and we talk through facebook everynow and then. I´ve always liked him, and because of that I think he´s my perfect match even though I don´t actually know him much. I know that I´m kinda obssessed with him but since I´ve been applying your tips I can´t stop thinking about him! The point is that I really want a relationship and I think this situation doesn´t allow me to move on. I would love to attract him and clear out all my doubts and expectations and then see if I want to change my focus or not (as you said in the video). The thing is that we´re physically separated and I don´t know if this situation is the one that is keeping me trapped. I would really appreacite your opinion, Andrea! Thank you very much
Andrea Schulman
Hi PLK! Thanks for watching my videos and for your kind words:)
About your situation, I have a few thoughts that may be useful to you.
The first is to say that when we are in a “lower” state of expectation, we are generally drawn to people and experiences that will perpetuate those feelings of lowered expectation. Thus, if I don’t expect to be satisfied by a love interest, I will attract to me situations where I am interested in people who’s actions leave me feeling dissatisfied.
What you are wanting to attract is a relationship that is satisfying.
So, the trick is to find a way to feel satisfied. Get to a place of satisfaction, and you will find that either this person is more drawn to you in the way you wish, OR that you attract a new partner who is even better than what you are currently envisioning.
In the meantime, I would do my best to avoid thinking too much about this guy. When thoughts crop up, I would immediately tell myself “my job is to get on the path of satisfaction, and I know there are other things I can think about that will bring me feelings of satisfaction.” Then, I would do some deep breathing, and I would hop onto a different subject, and allow my mind to drift away from thoughts of this person.
The less attention you pay to the thoughts, the less momentum they will have, and the easier they will fade out of your life. This is important, because if thinking about this man is making you feel dissatisfied or lackful in any way, those feelings will prevent you from drawing in him (or anyone who would be the perfect mate for you.
I know it may seem like a tall order right now with such a steady stream of these thoughts coming in, but trust me, the more you turn away from them, the more they will fade. With the Law of Attraction, thoughts generate like a snowball rolling down hill…the more you think about them, the bigger they get. Fortunately, the less you think of them the smaller they get.
So ultimately, the job is to distract yourself from these thoughts and allow them to dwindle. At the same time, find a way to focus on satisfaction that already exists in your life. Let a snowball of satisfaction build in your life, and it will take in the subject of your love life as well.
Moving forward, if you are interested in learning more I do offer a love attraction e-course and I also offer one-on-one coaching. If either of these options is intriguing, feel free to let me know and I will forward you some more information about them.
I wish you the best!
XO, Andrea
PLK
Thank you very much Andrea! I will try to focus on my satisfaction as soon as possible! And I am interested in your e-courses. So if you can send me the prices I can see if I can make it 🙂 THANK YOU VERY MUCH
Andrea Schulman
Hi PLK- you are most welcome:) The course is $50…to learn more about it you can check out the description here. If you have any questions about it feel free to let me know!
BM
Hi Andrea! Thanks for sharing! Does this trick apply to long distance relationships? How can I get a positive reaction if we´re in different places. Is this possible?
Andrea Schulman
Hi BM:)
If you are in different places, I recommend thinking about the things you like about that person when you are talking to them or communicating with them (if you do).
If you are looking to receive a random communication through focus but you AREN’T currently communicating, this might be a little beyond the realm of believability, so I would definitely practice this strategy with strangers and others FIRST before attempting to apply it to a love interest, especially one who isn’t right in front of you.
XO, Andrea
Neerja
Hi Andrea ,
After seeing the above video , I thought of trying it out . And YESSSSS…..it does work ! It takes me 15 mints. of walking to my work. So I meet many people who pass by me . I have a habit ,if I do not make any eye contact with the other person ,I can’t say ” hi ” . So there was this woman who never looked up ,whenever we crossed each other . Hence ,I applied the ‘ trick ‘ on her . First day ,I sensed that she was slightly conscious ,of me . Second day ,her eyes raised ,but didn’t meet my eyes . Third day , again I felt that she was conscious ,so I just said ” hi ” , she too responded . But the next day ,she was the first person to say hello & now everyday ,whenever we pass ,we always greet ! It’s a good feeling .
One more thing , I was in dilemma ,whether to bring up a certain topic with my partner or not . So I asked UNIVERSE, to guide me ,asking to give me a sign ,either Yes or No . And as you had told ‘ to keep eyes peeled out ‘😊 for the signs ,I did . And I couldn’t believe when ,I saw a car with number plate ‘ YZS’ ,I knew this was the sign . I asked universe to confirm again, to what I have seen .Lo Behold ! the same car was seen again ! So I had got my message . The next day I couldn’t see that car !! Thanks s….o much Andrea . Really I have no words to express my gratitude to you . Hope more people were like you !
Andrea Schulman
Fantastic Neerja, thank you for sharing your story here! <3 <3
Stephanie
Hi Andrea,
I really liked the way you told us the theory for attracting or emitting positive energy
But I want to know what if my ex is not talking to me? How should I emitting positive energy for him?
Andrea Schulman
It’s ok if he isn’t talking to you, this can still be effective Stephanie.
Try offering positive energy, but without any insistence he returns the favor. Just send the good wishes for the sake of sharing kindness with him <3
The trick with these things is to give without expectation...that's where the magic really lies in this activity
Jenny
Andrea,
I’m getting ready for video 3. I am grateful for the 1st one, as it helped me to actually SEE and truly realize in my subconscious mind what I did on my part in my relationship that made him leave. He had warned me and out of fear I assumed I knew how to see and overcome what I was doing… Writing it down , seeing it and replacing those thoughts of “all men cheat” with “most men are faithful” today has already helped me realize what he was telling me. It took this happening 4 times now and FINALLY I SEE!
You just added to what I’ve been being told.
Sometimes you actually have to see it to believe it… It’s like self confession
Andrea Schulman
Thanks for the feedback Jenny! <3