How is your self-esteem? We all have moments where we have self-doubt, and worry that we aren’t good enough.  That being said, some of us tend more towards good self-esteem, while others tend more towards poor self-esteem.  To see where you land on the spectrum, evaluate yourself based on these seven signs of good self-esteem.

Signs of Good Self-Esteem

1. You are ok with making mistakes:

People with good self-esteem are able to cut themselves some slack when they make a mistake.  They don’t let their mistakes cripple them, and then don’t look back on their mistakes with regret.  Instead, they see their mistakes as lessons or even signs of progress.  They know that to make mistakes is to be human, and they don’t look down on themselves for being imperfect.

2. You don’t use self-deprecating language:

People with good self-esteem can simply say “thank you” when they receive a compliment.  They do not feel the need to point out all of their flaws to others. They don’t make a habit of saying things like “I’m so fat,” “I’m so absent-minded” or “I’m stupid.” They don’t abuse themselves with unnecessary criticism.

3. You have good posture, and you hold your head high:

People with poor self-esteem often try to hide themselves from others by cowering, crossing their arms, or keeping their head down.  A person with truly good self-esteem holds their head high, and walks tall.  They aren’t afraid to be noticed by others.

4. You don’t take criticism personally:

We all get hit with criticism now and again, but how we respond to it can illustrate the quality of our self-esteem.  Those with high self-esteem can easily brush off critical comments.  If the criticism is valid, they take note of it, make an adjustment and move on.  If the criticism is rude or unkind, they easily discard it.

In contrast, a person with low self-esteem will often internalize criticism, be it good or bad.  They will be easily hurt by criticism, and be more inclined to believe that there is something wrong with them.

5. You take chances:

People with high self-esteem believe in their dreams and in their abilities. The allow themselves to take chances because they believe that they have the power to create their realities the way they want them to be.

People with poor self-esteem will often settle in life, because they are afraid to take the leap.  They spend more time and effort believing in their limitations rather than believing in their possibilities.

6. You allow yourself to shine:

A person with good self-esteem isn’t afraid for others to see them at their best.  This doesn’t mean they are a braggart or they are overly attention-seeking, but rather that they don’t feel the need to cover up their skills and talents from the world.

7. You don’t put up with abuse or maltreatment from others:

People with poor self-esteem often feel that if they are being treated improperly, it’s probably because they deserve it.  People with good self-esteem, however, believe that they deserve to be treated with kindness and respect no matter what.  They aren’t afraid to walk away from abusive, manipulative and toxic relationships.

So, how did you score on these signs of good self-esteem? Chances are, if you are like most of us, you scored well in some areas and not so well in others, and that’s ok.  The good news is that if you are aware of the signs of good self-esteem, you will be able to adjust your actions to improve your personal self-esteem. 

If you can simply act as if you have good self-esteem, you will begin to internalize it and it will become habit.  For example, if you can simply stop using self-deprecating language, and hold your head high in a crowd, these actions will actually make you feel better about yourself, even if you currently have low self-esteem.  

The simple act of changing your behaviors to mirror those of people with good self-esteem will rub off on you, and you will start to gain more confidence and love for yourself.  It’s really that easy.

Life is a journey, and part of that journey involves reaching for self-acceptance. Treat yourself well, be your own best friend, and keep reaching for better and better self-esteem.  We all have within us the power to love ourselves more, and by doing this, we will create happier and healthier lives for ourselves.

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  • Angelo Limon
    Posted March 7, 2015 12:42 pm 0Likes

    Hi Andrea,

    Great list of self confidence. I like your blog.

  • gail
    Posted March 7, 2015 2:29 pm 0Likes

    Hi, I just wanted to say Thank You for this information. I never had any self esteem from the time I was a child,to even now. I do have some good self esteem today at 52years old,but I really would love to inprove my self esteem. I will look to read all of your posts over time and believe I will get better. I never thought I could help myself,I thought because of my childhood,this was and always would be who I am. Thank you again,Gail

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted March 7, 2015 8:05 pm 0Likes

    Thank you Angelo! 🙂

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted March 7, 2015 8:06 pm 0Likes

    Thanks Gail! I am glad you liked this article, and I hope you find the suggestion helpful! Best wishes to you -Andrea

  • demandemsuga
    Posted December 28, 2016 11:22 am 0Likes

    I love it

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 28, 2016 3:43 pm 0Likes

    thank you for your positive feedback! <3

  • Anonymous
    Posted January 21, 2018 7:41 am 0Likes

    That’s an excellent ellaboration for gaining higher self-esteem. Thank you very much.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted January 24, 2018 12:06 pm 0Likes

    Most welcome, thanks for the positive feedback Anonymous!

  • Anonymous
    Posted February 5, 2018 6:32 am 0Likes

    Hi Andrea,
    I am writing you this because I am feeling very low.
    I am Male, 34. I am suffering from low self esteem. It is very evident to me, and will be to you too when you read further 🙂
    I really really want to develop self esteem, and be free. I want to act the way i want to in front of anyone. After all, doesnt my opinion also matter?
    But whenever I want to open my mouth in front of even my closest friends, and colleagues of 5-10 years, and acquaintances / cousins I have known throughout my life, I am scared. Scared of their reactions. What they will think of me?
    And I can come up with all the justification that I was stupid and unlikable and repulsive. Like my joke was poor / lame / unfunny. I said something very embarrassing which shows lack of general knowledge / basic awareness such as America is in Antarctica (Only to let you know the extent of goofs that can happen in the moment of confidence. These can shatter your confidence and overpower others)

    1. But isnt the fear of others reactions right? After all, they are the ones we are talking to, and if they react in a certain way which leads to our negative evaluation in any way, should not we worry. Because it is unbiased, a true judgment. We made a mistake for sure. But what mistake? Just because they did not like something? How their opinion makes it bad? Still, if I do not appear interesting / right to them, then wont they leave me? Or think bad about me? Whenever I go to visit them next, would they even want to talk to me considering the last time some bad bad thing happened? Would they not consider me a jerk / abnormal? This brings me to a very important observation:-

    2. Why is it that when others say anything, I see that they always get applauded. No one makes fun of them / calls them stupid (even jokingly) but when I speak, I fear others will get offended. I literally get no reactions from people when I say a joke expecting them to respond nicely. As other people always make good jokes, and never get mocked by other people outside of their family, it is their true judgment?

    Thus, why I do not put the blame on others but me is because I know that if my self esteem is high, then others opinion cannot affect me. However, this doesnt happen. Others opinions affect me and put my low self esteem to pieces, causing social anxiety – never ending loop. Downward spiral.

    3. As I said since family always has a bias, and people whom I go to for advice (such as you) would only be nice, and never give an accurate opinion, those who say bad things about me are right. They are correct judge of me. Others are right as they never get mocked by people outside of their family. But I am always ridiculed by outsiders. That’s unbiased.

    THanks. It would be great if you can help me.

  • Anonymous
    Posted February 5, 2018 6:37 am 0Likes

    Just to add, what I wanted to say in 2 is that others are so interesting and others enjoy talking to them. And I am so unlikable that others only talk to me to be nice. But dont enjoy. THerefore, I have to be conscious talking to them so that they do not get offended.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted February 5, 2018 9:54 am 0Likes

    Hi Anonymous! I Have a video that isn’t exactly related to your query, however the information inside of it may help you understand the dynamics you are experiencing in your relationships. Here’s the link:

  • Simisola Omotoso
    Posted June 8, 2018 4:14 pm 0Likes

    That’s good!

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted June 9, 2018 3:36 pm 0Likes

    Thanks Simisola <3

  • Ashok
    Posted June 19, 2018 5:03 am 0Likes

    Simply Superb

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted June 19, 2018 1:20 pm 0Likes

    Thanks Ashok <3

  • Carolyne
    Posted September 3, 2018 10:11 am 0Likes

    That’s awesome Andrea..

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted September 3, 2018 11:56 am 0Likes

    Thanks Carolyne!

  • Anonymous
    Posted September 21, 2018 3:27 am 0Likes

    thank you.very much….nice one..

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted September 22, 2018 2:59 pm 0Likes

    Thanks Anonymous!

  • Lemayan
    Posted October 24, 2018 3:46 am 0Likes


  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted October 26, 2018 11:44 am 0Likes

    Thanks Lemayan 🙂

  • estif
    Posted January 30, 2019 4:03 pm 0Likes

    tnx andrea u make me sure about ma self
    now i know that i have good self steem

    sorry about ma english

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted January 31, 2019 10:11 am 0Likes

    Most welcome Estif:)

  • Arima
    Posted June 25, 2019 10:43 am 0Likes

    I loved your blog , dude, i’m glad some are out there helping and working for others, yes you are the one. No doubt about pen’s mighter than the sword!

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