4 Questions to Ask When the Law of Attraction Isn’t Working

Have you ever been in the position of wanting to manifest something but it just isn’t showing up, despite your best efforts?  If the Law of Attraction isn’t working for you, there are a number of things that may be in your way.   So, before you throw in the towel, here are a few things you can ask yourself to gain clarity on why the Law of Attraction isn’t working.

Here is a checklist of questions I ask myself when I am struggling to “get what I want.”  Feel free to use them the next time you find yourself wondering why the Law of Attraction isn’t working for you.

1. Are you free of limiting beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are a BIG reason why many of us struggle to receive the things we want in life.  Essentially, a limiting belief is an excuse we tell ourselves as to why we can’t have the things we want.

For example:

“I’m not thin because I eat junk food.” 

“I can’t find a man because all of the good ones are taken.”

“I don’t have enough money for that.”

Always remember, with the Law of Attraction anything (yes, literally anything) is possible.  So you can lose weight and eat junk food.  You can find a good man anywhere.  Extremely expensive things can drop into your lap without you having to spend one red cent.

So, if you are struggling to manifest something, one of the first things I recommend you do is ask yourself: “are there any excuses I am making as to why I can’t have what I want?”

I do have a video tutorial on my member website that explains how to identify and eliminate limiting beliefs.  If you are a member, check out this video: Eliminating Limiting Beliefs: Identifying & Transforming Negative Thought Patterns.

2. Are you letting the universe handle the details?

I must admit, I can be a bit of a control freak…so this is one of the areas I get hung up on from time to time.

Many of us have been bred to believe that we have to make things happen, and often, this gets in the way of things happening for us!  The Law of Attraction works the easiest when we release control and allow the universe to do its job.

There are an infinite number of ways that any dream can come true.  Picking the “right path” just isn’t a good job for us because we simply aren’t able to see how all of the moving parts are going to fit together.  However, the universe has a much broader view, and this is why it’s best to leave the details to the universe.

Remember, our job is just to ask, and then believe.  That’s it!

3.  Do you have a high vibration?

Perhaps you are letting the universe handle the details and you’ve eliminated all limiting beliefs.  However, if your vibration is running low, the things you want will stay out of reach.  Not sure how high your vibration is running? Check out this article: Test Your Vibration Using 4 Signs From the Universe.

Do your best to raise your vibration when you can, and you will manifest more of the things you want more easily.  Make an effort as often as you can to listen to upbeat music, smile, laugh and do the things you love. 

Now, this isn’t to say that you aren’t allowed to be sad when you are sad.  Of course you are, and of course you will be from time to time!  In fact, when you are sad, it’s always best to embrace the pain in order to overcome it as quickly as possible. 

A lowered vibration is a temporary state that can be overcome.  Allow your vibration to be what it  is without judging or guilting yourself, but make it a goal to take daily steps to improve it when you feel up to the task!

4. Have you let go yet?

This is often the trickiest piece of the puzzle for most people I’ve spoken with about the Law of Attraction.  When we are hung up on “having to have” the things we want, we actually create resistance and push them away from us.

Here’s the thing, when we have something, we don’t worry about when it’s going to come to us, right?  So, if you have a best friend, you aren’t worried about not having a best friend.  You are in the resonance of having a best friend because you are not focused on the absence of a friend. 

Therefore, when we don’t have something we want, we must find a way to make peace with the absence of it.  In fact, the moment we truly let go and tell ourselves “it’s ok if this never comes to me,” is often the exact moment it shows up.

It’s a bit of a paradox, I know.  But letting go is one of the most important keys to mastering the Law of Attraction.

If you struggle with this part of the equation, start to look for evidence of this paradox in your life. 

For example, notice that when you give up looking for your keys suddenly they appear right in front of you.  Become aware of the times when you stop trying so hard to win over someone’s affections and suddenly they are nicer to you.  These things happen to all of us, often on a daily basis, so there is plenty of evidence out there to observe and acknowledge.

In becoming more aware of this phenomenon, it will become easier and easier for you to really let go on each of your intentional manifestations.  Suddenly, releasing expectation and going with the flow become the more logical decisions in life.

So remember, when something isn’t manifesting, go through this checklist of questions.  Are you free of limiting beliefs, are you letting the universe handle the details, are you in a high vibrational space and have you made peace with its absence yet?  If you can honestly say “yes” to each of these questions, your dream will be a reality (and probably already is!).

I hope you find these tips useful.  Are there any other strategies you use to find success when the Law of Attraction isn’t working for you?  Share your ideas below in the comments!

XO, Andrea (Law of Attraction Educator)

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  • Tristian
    Posted August 28, 2015 8:11 am 0Likes

    Like you said being able to let go is the hardest and most confusing part of the LOA. It was confusing that if I wanted something specific, that I had to visualize it as if I already had it but at the same time let it go as if it was something I didn’t want. It seemed like the opposite of how the LOA worked. But after reading a blog post it made more sense on what letting go actually means. For those still having trouble understanding this part of LOA I would suggest reading this..


  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted August 31, 2015 9:56 am 0Likes

    Thanks for sharing this advice Tristian! I appreciate the comment and hope you have a wonderful week. All the best, Andrea:)

  • Anonymous
    Posted September 6, 2015 12:10 pm 0Likes

    wow. this really makes sense! thaaank you! 😀

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted September 8, 2015 6:53 am 0Likes

    Thanks Anonymous! Glad you liked the article. All the best, Andrea 🙂

  • Doreen Pendgracs
    Posted September 11, 2015 8:13 am 0Likes

    Great post, Andrea. Sometimes, it’s so hard to sit back and let the universe handle all the details on a project. I’ve been trying to move something forward, and now get the sense that I should let the person driving the project pursue her course for the good of us all.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted September 11, 2015 3:22 pm 0Likes

    Doreen, sitting back used to be such a challenge for me too. It took me a little time to get used to it. The funny thing is, if you let this person handle things and really let go, she might end up doing things exactly the way you want. That’s the irony of it all! All of the effort to make things “perfect” often goes awry, but when we totally surrender it just runs smoothly.

    All the best, Andrea 🙂

  • paurush
    Posted April 21, 2016 7:00 am 0Likes

    I did all the things right…… i believed i won the lottery….. for 20 days i: ( i didnt win,,, pls help)

    1.)meditated on i have won the lottery with pure theta frequency music and also slept with it

    2.) wrote everyday the details with my ticket number and thanked the universe for blessing me with money

    3.) wrote everyday multiple times how i am spending my money after winning , visualized.

    4.) also drank water out a bottle labeled i won the lottery .

    5) i also felt really happy, genuinely for these 2 weeks, as i was very extremely positive… i was always smiling when looking in the mirror , genuinely and not faking it.

    6.) i meditated on result day too with specifically writing and telling the universe how much thankful i am for this winning ticket that it had blessed me with


  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted April 21, 2016 7:45 am 0Likes

    Hi Paurush!

    EXCELLENT questions.

    The issue you are having is one many experience, and occurs as a result of trying too hard. When we try too hard to make something happen, we actually push it away because in our trying we are essentially telling the universe “I don’t believe this can happen easily for me.”

    I wrote an article on this you might enjoy. If you’d like to check it out, here is the link: https://raiseyourvibrationtoday.com/2015/02/05/law-attraction-trying-hard/

    Best Regards,


  • paurush
    Posted April 21, 2016 10:30 am 0Likes

    Thanx for the quick reply Andrea…. much appreciated and you have all the love and respect from my heart for helping people the way you are. And i read the article you referred too.

    But there’s one more question, should i

    a)still meditate or concentrate one minute just one minute on my desires everyday or basically visualize myself owning or having what i want

    b)should i just desire something and keep it at the back of my head whilst going thru life feeling happy and functioning normally
    knowing in heart and soul that it WILL MANIFEST BECAUSE I AM WORTHY OF IT AND A GREAT HUMAN BEING. Basically being carefree AND NOT VISUALIZE


    c) should i just desire something and IMMEDIATELY FORGET ABOUT IT and let it go,


    She also says that u should just be in the vortex and think thoughts intentionally and have a mental bend towards your desires basically she says to rethink ur thoughts to those which are positive and to those that affirm you already having fullfilled
    your desires as you technically have in a parallel universe

    that was the reason i meditated everyday and started being happy or in other words started heavily gaurding my mental state so as whenever i was down i wud reaffirm myself that there’s no reason to be so as i have already won the lottery, so i am happy in the present.

    i know this long but its important, i am writing an article in the comment section lol,

    Secondly i read about a man named PETER KEDDIE, Please have a look at this article to understand wat i am trying to say.


    HE BASICALLY Says in this article that the key to his manifestation of his back to back lottery wins( claims he has won $500 something million dollars) is THETA BRAIN WAVE AMPLIFICATION IN THE BRAIN

    so that was the reason of me mediating with pure theta brain waves……..

    if you could clear my doubts it will be a godsend…….. THANK YOU IN ADVANCE

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted April 22, 2016 11:06 am 0Likes

    Hi Paurush

    I too have heard what Esther has said about the 17 seconds…but I believe that is for “thought” manifestation. I.e., “think a thought about a subject for 17 seconds, and another thought just like it will appear.” I think her point is to gain momentum for positive thoughts to raise your vibration and to get into alignment.

    My suggestion to you would be to perhaps switch your focus. Instead of becoming hyper-focused on the manifestation, why not become hyper-focused on being as happy as possible? When we are happy, we attract all kinds of things that make us happy, and we become a better vibrational match for all things wanted.

    This has become my go-to LOA strategy, and it has helped me attract lots of good stuff into my life. It works because I don’t have any limiting beliefs or hangups about just being happy, unlike we often do when we want something very specific, like a lottery win that seems improbable.

    Another suggestion would be to focus on attracting more abundance, but leaving alone the lottery because it’s too specific and sounds like it’s amplifying negative expectation. Focus on the abundance that is already present in your life, and do your best to feel abundant in all arenas in your life that you can (even if it’s just being abundant in friends, family, ideas or other things that appear to be unrelated to money). The more abundant you can feel in your life, the stronger of a magnet you will become for all things that make you feel abundant, including money 🙂

    I know the goal is to get to the manifestation, but I also know that when the manifestations are too important we often push them away. I always recommend asking and intending for the things we want, but always steering our emotions as high as possible, and avoiding subjects and activities that feel “lackful” or worrisome in any way.

    XO, Andrea

  • Christine
    Posted May 23, 2016 7:48 pm 0Likes

    This really made a lot of sense. Especially the “letting go” part.

    About a year and a half ago, I finally started pursuing my dream career. It’s something I wanted to do since I was 5. Once I discovered the law of attraction, I pursued it and literally, things were falling into my lap with my career. Its acting. I attracted a manager, high profile national commercials, meeting celebrities, etc. Everything was PERFECT and I was SO happy and truly living in my bliss. Then I felt like I lost momentum, Gigs slowed down in the past 6 months. I rarely get the high profile gigs anymore, only non-paid, less professional, independent gigs that make me feel restless and frustrated. A few of my closest friends stabbed me in the back and shut me out, and almost every guy I’ve dated in the past 6 months has rejected me (before I had no desire to date and was happy with that), and I quit my part time job as bartending because there was so much negativity there, and now I’m broke. I want this career to work out so bad, but now I’m afraid that it might not be my true calling (although I feel it is). I feel aligned and connected when I am doing those professional, high profile gigs, and I always end up in a higher vibration with everyone on set. It’s like I attract those people who understand the law of attraction, and that’s an awesome feeling. At the same time, I’m giving back because somehow I always end up inspiring at least 1 person on set to follow their bliss. I give them “spiritual vomit” per se, and they leave feeling inspired to go after their dreams and bliss. That alone is rewarding in itself to me as well. I love that feeling of helping someone out and raising their vibration. Do I just need to let it go and be ok with not being a professional actress? I’m trying to do that but it’s the only profession I can see myself doing that makes me happy, and I seem to give back and help people out in the process.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted May 25, 2016 9:07 am 0Likes

    Hi Christine!

    This is actually a common phenomenon…people get into alignment and start moving toward their dream, but then their focus becomes a little too “conditional” and this causes the momentum to slow.

    The trick is, we have to get into alignment first and we have to be happy with what is. We cannot react negatively to what we don’t want, and hope for what we do want to come.

    So you came into alignment and allowed yourself to be happy with where you were, then you attracted what you wanted. Then, instead of allowing yourself to be happy with where you were, you started looking for “conditions” to be right in order to be happy, and when the conditions weren’t there, you weren’t able to find your happiness. This happens to the best of us, so take heart! This is all part of the process of becoming better creators.

    My suggestion to you would be to focus more on your alignment, and be a little less conditional. Get happy for the sake of happiness, and choose to be happy regardless of the circumstances. After all, the only reason any of us wants anything is because we want to be happy. Fortunately, we can be happy now.

    It also helps me to think this: “If I want this thing to be happy, but I could guarantee my happiness without this thing, do I really need the thing? Wouldn’t I rather be happy without this thing rather than be unhappy because I needed this thing?” Ultimately, all any of us really craves is that feeling of being in alignment.

    Make your happiness your #1 priority, and when you feel yourself slipping, stop whatever you are doing and find a way to bring your alignment back into place (perhaps through meditation, or good music, or fun activity). Follow the “small” passions in life to keep you in the mode of being passionate and in alignment, and allow the rest to unfold without trying.

    You can do it, and this hurdle has provided you with an excellent opportunity to fine tune your manifesting skills. It’s simply a lesson in the importance of unconditional alignment above all else. Once you have learned how to find your happiness in spite of what is, you will have a valuable new skill set that will allow you to manifest even more wonderful things into your life.

    We keep expanding as time progresses, so there will always be new triumphs followed by new lessons. This is all part of the fun, and makes the process of manifestation worthy of our time and attention.

    Sorry for the long response, I felt called to keep writing, so hopefully this message is helpful to you:)

    XO, Andrea

  • Roos
    Posted March 11, 2017 2:31 pm 0Likes

    Great article! Very clear explained. It assisted me a lot because it’s very to the point. Thanx!

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted March 12, 2017 1:52 pm 0Likes

    Thanks Roos, I appreciate that!

  • Pawan
    Posted December 8, 2017 10:42 am 0Likes

    People say its not possible to attract a specific person with the law of attraction. But can we trick the LOA to attract the specific person for us by feeling as if that person was already with us? The feeling would be very specific since one knows what ones gonna feel when that specific person is with them and the universe will just respond to our feeling. Is this possible?

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted December 8, 2017 10:48 am 0Likes

    It is possible, but there are some factors to understand about how this works. Here is a link to a video series on love attraction you may find helpful (it’s the first video, but there are links to subsequent videos in the post if you want to watch them all)


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