4 Ways to Deal With Toxic People Effectively
It would be nice if we could 100% eliminate negativity from our lives with the wave of a magic wand. However, we will probably retain at least a few toxic people in our lives, regardless of how positive we may be.
Negative people can crop up as neighbors, friends, coworkers or family members. Even though they drag you down, you still may want to keep them in your life (or feel you need to). That’s ok! With some simple adjustments you can make it easier to spend time with these people in your life.
Here are four ways to deal with toxic people effectively.
1. Limit your exposure
Though you may feel obligated to call or visit a negative person in your life, you certainly aren’t required to call or visit all of the time! Feel free to reduce the number of interactions you have with the toxic people in your life.
You are able to keep the people in your life at arm’s length, and sometimes that’s what’s best for your sanity and your relationships. Some people are best dealt with in small doses.
2. Keep it light
Toxic people love to talk about arguments, problems, gossip, health issues and tragedies. Be mindful of the topics you bring up when you are hanging around a negative person.
For example, if you know your friend has been fighting with her sister, a question like “How’s your sister?” will likely turn into a thirty minute gripe session.
A conversation like this can really drag you down.
For this reason, try to keep it light. Talk about the things that are going well for you and the other person. Ask about their passions or interests, or discuss positive news and events.
Steer the conversation away from the doom and gloom. This will help reduce the amount of complaining and gossiping you are exposed to.
3. Take breaks
When you are spending time with a negative person, it can be helpful to step away for a minute and do a little deep breathing, especially when you feel the negativity start to wear on you.
Excuse yourself for a minute and step outside, take a bathroom break or leave to run a quick errand. Take a moment to get your vibe back on track before returning.
Taking frequent breaks can help keep you centered and can neutralize some of the effects of hanging around a negative person.
4. Call it a day
When you’ve had your fill of negativity, it’s ok to call it a day and hang up the phone or leave. This can be done in a polite way, without offending anyone.
“I’m really tired so I think I’m going to turn in,” “I have to pick up the kids,” or “I’ve got to get back to work” are all statements you can use to conclude a visit or conversation and step away from a negative person in your life.
Remember, your sanity is important. When interactions have become too stressful, you do a disservice to yourself (and everyone else-including the toxic people!) by sticking around and absorbing more negativity.
I hope you find these strategies useful in dealing with the toxic people in your life. Do you have any other tips for dealing with negativity? Comment below and let me know!
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