5 Possible Reasons Why You’re Still Single

Are you still single? I know lots of my readers are interested in learning how to apply the Law of Attraction to attract love into their lives. If you’re wondering why you’re still single, this one’s for you!

Today, I’ve outlined 5 of the most common reasons why people have difficulty manifesting loving and lasting relationships with the Law of Attraction. Check out the questions below to see if you can pinpoint any possible reasons why you’re still single.

1. Do you speak negatively about relationships and love?

This is, by far, one of the MOST common reasons why people have difficulty manifesting relationships, and it is also one of the easiest to correct!

Lots of times, people who are struggling to attract love have negative mantras that they practice regularly regarding love and relationships. For example, “a good man is hard to find,” “all of the good ones are taken,” “you can’t trust men/women,” “I always get my heart broken,” or “I have a fear of commitment.”

When we point out in conversation what is going wrong in our love life, we only draw more of these unwanted things into our existence. 

You’ve seen this phenomenon in action before I’m sure.  We all know a few people who are always complaining about the kinds of partners they have. Then, not surprisingly, as soon as they get out of one bad relationship they dive right into the next. 

Negative conversation can cause someone to line up with a string of cheaters, deadbeats, abusers or heartbreakers.  It happens all the time!

So, if you find that you often state negative beliefs about relationships and love, make a pact with yourself to stop saying these things as much as possible.  This will help lessen a lot of the negative resistance you’ve been offering on the subject.

Related article:14 Things to Stop Saying Now if you Want to Find Love

2. Are you trying too hard?

I’ve noticed that a lot of people who want to manifest love with the Law of Attraction often work very hard at it. 

For example, you might find that someone like this has a very regimented “love attraction” routine, perhaps doing a daily visualization, a daily love meditation and regularly practices relationship affirmations. They might also do a lot of other things, like going on lots of dates and reading lots of relationship books.

However, although you know these strategies can be useful tools, they just don’t seem to work.  Why is this?

Well, when we take drastic measures to attract a partner, the subconscious message we send out into the universe is “I think this process is going to be hard!”  “I have to force this issue!” or, even worse,  “When is he/she going to show up?!”

Because the universe responds to what we’re putting out there, subconscious messages like these will keep anything from showing up.

See, the process of attracting anything is all about being in the flow and allowing what you want to come without straining.  Like a singer who gets lost in the song and delivers a beautiful performance, finding love is all about getting lost in the energy of the moment.

Think about it.  We wouldn’t expect that a song would be that good if the singer was stressed out and efforting her way through it, would we? Well, the same thing applies in all areas of life.  We have to let the energy carry us if we want to find out way into the magic.

So, if you’ve been trying too hard, take a break!  Cut out any activities you’ve been doing to find love that make you feel stressed out or tired.  Instead, spend more time having fun and enjoying the present moment.

3. Do you cling to romantic interests?

This one can go hand in hand with the “trying too hard” reason above, but it’s a specific way of trying too hard that is very, very common and it’s definitely worth mentioning.

Clinginess occurs when someone calls a romantic interest too frequently, texts all the time, or develops any kind of obviously unbalanced bond with the other person.

The problem with clinginess is that the message we send into the universe with this behavior is “I’m afraid you’re going to leave me!” and this has terrible ramifications on a potential relationship.

When we expect that a relationship will endure, we have a much more balanced give-and-take attitude about things. 

We don’t think our partner will leave us, so we are ok if it takes him or her a few hours to get back with us.  We’re not worried about when he or she will call, or when we will see him or her next. 

Then, because we are projecting security about the relationship in this fashion, the relationship is much more likely to endure.

So, if there’s someone you like on the horizon, be sure to play it cool.  Sure, you can still call or text, but ask yourself “would I be texting/calling this much if I was in a loving and lasting relationship with this person?” Let the answer to that question be your guide on how you treat the other person.

Remember, in order to attract a relationship that lasts you’ve got to send the message that you expect the relationship to last, and one of the ways you do this is through your behavior choices.

4. Do you pick partners based on what other people think?

Love is a funny thing.  It can come from a lot of unexpected places!

Sometimes, people struggle to find love because they allow other people’s opinions to interfere with their personal intuition and desires. Unfortunately, many people shut love out of their lives because they’re more concerned about what other people think than they are with what they really want!

So, if you are wanting love, and you find yourself drawn to a particular person who fits your bill, but not the bill of your friends or relatives, keep an open mind! Don’t shut out someone who makes your heart sing just because they’re the wrong age, race, religion, height or other characteristic that is important to someone other than you.

No one else’s opinion matters in your life.  If you like someone, that’s all that matters.  Trust your own emotions and feelings and they will show you the way to love!

5. Are you unkind to yourself?

With the Law of Attraction, we get what we project out into the universe.  When we love ourselves, other people love us too! Unfortunately, however, when we pick apart our flaws and treat ourselves unkindly, so do others.

Loving yourself is probably the very most important thing to consider if want to know why you’re still single. Treat yourself with the same kindness and respect you want to receive from a partner.  This will make you a magnet for the kind of love you really want from another person.

So if you’re still single, what do you think? Do any of these reasons resonate with you? If so, that’s a really good thing, because when we know what we are doing that pushes love away from us, we can choose an alternative course of action!

Remember, love is always just a step away.  People fall in love all the time in the most random places and ways, and if it can happen for so many people-it can absolutely happen for you too!

If you are wanting to attract love into your life, feel free to contact me and let me know what I can do to help! I am a Law of Attraction coach and I love helping people discover the easy (and fun!) vibe of love manifestation. It’s one of my favorite subjects to discuss and work on.

Happy Manifesting! XO, Andrea

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  • Lynda
    Posted March 16, 2016 3:40 am 0Likes

    Hi Andrea really enjoying trying the law of attraction. I do find it hard to visualise buy I guess that come with practice. I would like to find love and the right partner for me.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted March 16, 2016 8:06 am 0Likes

    Hi Lynda:) In my experience I’ve found that over-visualizing can lead to pushing love away. Just remember to put yourself first and follow your happiness. The LOA can take care of the rest XO

  • Afraa
    Posted April 8, 2016 4:37 am 0Likes

    Thank you Andrea for these amazing facts. i think number 2 is the one which most of single people need to overcome.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted April 8, 2016 11:58 am 0Likes

    Thanks for commenting Afraa-I can see where you are coming from! 🙂

  • Aiden
    Posted August 3, 2016 2:04 am 0Likes

    I answered no to all of these and I still don’t get it. I’ve been following the law of attraction for nearly 3 years and have only had one date since. I know it works because I have no issue getting material items but I’m just afraid I’m gonna end up alone with a bunch of toys and pets. I’ve been generally happy for months so I thought things were going great but no one has showed up.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted August 3, 2016 9:07 am 0Likes

    Hi Aiden:) I actually created a free love attraction video series you might find useful. Here’s the link to the first video, and there are links to subsequent videos in the post. I think this may help you identify what’s going on specifically in your situation. Hope you enjoy it!


  • Andrea
    Posted November 8, 2016 12:46 pm 0Likes

    Hi Andrea,

    I really enjoyed this article. It’s intelligent advice and succinct. I’m guilty of several of the points above. I’m going to take the advice given in this article, as it makes sense. Thank you – it’s something I really need to read and take in at this time in my life.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted November 8, 2016 1:57 pm 0Likes

    Thank you! I am glad you liked the article Andrea:) XO

  • Andrea
    Posted November 8, 2016 11:30 pm 0Likes

    Hi Andrea,

    I clicked on the link to your three videos. These are just great. The techniques are tangible and can see how they will help me to find the love that I desire. I’ve been feeling ‘blocked’ and have realised that it’s my limiting beliefs that have been stopping me from having the kind of love I’ve been looking for.
    Thank you for your great work Andrea, I’m going to delve further into your site, as I want to learn more.


  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted November 9, 2016 10:47 am 0Likes

    Thanks Andrea (haha it feels like I am writing to myself when I write you!). I really appreciate your positive feedback, and I will keep posting more videos so be sure to stay tuned! XO

  • Andrea
    Posted November 12, 2016 6:05 am 0Likes

    Hi Andrea – I went through each of your 3 videos (Law of Attraction Love Series), several times each, to make sure the message sinks in. It really makes a lot of sense and is already challenging me to think about my limiting belief (conscious and subconscious) about my ability to attract love and have successful relationships. I”m interested to find out more to help me in this area of my life. Where can I find your Attracting Love with the Law of Attraction course? I want to find the best possible partner and am interested to find out about this course.

    Andrea 🙂

  • Andrea
    Posted November 12, 2016 6:10 am 0Likes

    I think I just found it! Is this the course that is recommended by you to take? https://www.udemy.com/love-magnet-snag-the-ideal-mate-with-the-law-of-attraction/?couponCode=Course%20Link


  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted November 12, 2016 11:36 am 0Likes

    Hi Andrea:)

    Do me a favor and use this link instead..it looks the same but it routes differently on my end.

    I hope you like the course! 🙂

    XO, Andrea

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted November 12, 2016 11:37 am 0Likes

    Hi Andrea! Just responded to your other comment, but here is the link if you don’t see it: https://www.udemy.com/love-magnet-snag-the-ideal-mate-with-the-law-of-attraction/?couponCode=Course Link

    Have a great weekend,


  • Andrea
    Posted November 13, 2016 4:48 am 0Likes

    Thanks Andrea. I went to the link you’ve given above and signed up for the Love Magnet course. It’s excellent and what I need. I’ve been living by the LOA for many years and have had success in all areas of my life, but have found love relationships a challenge. I want that to end, so I’m excited to have been attracted to your site and this course. I like that I can play the lectures over to allow the teachings to sink in. The exercises and readings are great too. Feeling very positive and excited about finding and keeping the kind of love that I desire. Thank you.


  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted November 13, 2016 9:18 am 0Likes

    Thanks for signing up Andrea! I do hope you enjoy the course:)

  • Andrea
    Posted November 19, 2016 12:36 pm 0Likes

    Hi Andrea. The course is great! I’ve gone through it 3 times. I really put into place the advice and techniques. You said things can happen quickly when there’s alignment. Well, a met a guy within a week of doing your course. He has a lot of the values I’ve been looking for. It’s very early days, but he’s more the kind of guy I’m look for. I went through a shift and changed my vibration and my world is bringing better things. Thank you 🙂

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted November 19, 2016 4:52 pm 0Likes

    Andrea that is AMAZING! Well done, and thanks so much for sharing your feedback with me. I love hearing the success stories! XO

  • Steven
    Posted September 19, 2017 2:31 pm 0Likes

    Well i certainly know one very excellent reason why many of us good men are still single today is that the women now are nothing at all like they were in the past when real love did come very easy in those days.

  • Andrea Schulman
    Posted September 19, 2017 2:51 pm 0Likes

    Thanks for sharing your perspective on this Steven <3

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